Believe The Impossible

Every great achievement was once impossible until someone set a goal to make it a reality.

Lewis Carroll's famous masterpiece Through the Looking Glass contains a story that exemplifies the need to dream the impossible dream. There is a conversation between Alice and the queen, which goes like this:

"I can't believe that!" said Alice.

"Can't you?" the queen said in a pitying tone. "Try again, draw a long breath, and shut your eyes."

Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said. "One can't believe impossible things."

"I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

When you dare to dream, many marvels can be accomplished. The trouble is, most people never start dreaming their impossible dream.

Stand Up And Speak Up

Stand Up And Speak Up

Courage is the ability to face danger.

uncertainty or pain

Without being peralyzed by fear.

If you're experieriencing problems with getting results in regards to your Money , family , agreementa or questions - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you need help -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you see injustice or a need - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If some one is taking your kindness for weakness - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If tou're feeling pressured to do something against your values

Or time constraints -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you are not clear and feeling anxious about what others are asking or

Expecting from you -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you want to turn your life around in a positive direction - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If someone is taking advantage of your time , money ,body, turst , love or

Friendship -- Stand Up And Speak Up.

If there is something in life you want to accomplish -- Stand Up And Speak Up.

Friendship is like this only....

Friendship is not about “I m sorry “ its about “abbe teri galti hai “

Friendship is not about “I m there for u” or “I missed u “ it’s about “kahan marr gaya saale “

Friendship is not about “I understand “ its about “sab teri wajah se hua manhus“

Friendship is not about “I care for u “ its about “kamino tumhe chhod ke kahan jaunga “

Friendship is not about “I m happy for ur success “its about “chal party de saale“

Friendship is not about “I love that girl“ its about “saalo izzat se dekho tumhari bhabhi hain “

Friendship is not about “R u coming for outing tomorrow “ its about “ nautanki nahi, hum kal bahar ja rahe hai “

Friendship is not about “Get well soon “ its about “ Itna piyega toh yehi hoga“

Friendship is not about “All the best for ur career“ its about “ bahut hua, abhi toh switch mar saale“

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

Meri Raatein. Teri Yaadon se saji rehti hain

Meri Saansein Teri Khushbo mai basi rehti hain

Meri Aankhon mai Tera Sapna saja rehta hai

Haan Mere Dil mi Tera hi Aks basa rehta hai

Is tarah Mere Dil ke boht Paas ho Tum

Jis tarah paas hi Sheh-e-Rag ke Khuda rehta hai

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

Mere Aangan mai lage phool gawahi deinge

Mai ne Arsey se kisi Phool ko dekha bhi nahi

Tujh ko socha hai to phir Tujh ko hi socha hai

Tere siwa.. kisi aur ko socha bhi nahi

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

DON’T TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED

With Thanksgiving coming, let’s remember once again how important it is to be grateful for what we have. Don’t be so busy with your life that you never stop and count your blessings. Don’t just want more and more without ever expressing your gratitude for what you already have.

I recently read You: The Owner’s Manual, a very good book on health. There is plenty of good advice there. But reading the book also made me realize one thing: there are so many things that could go wrong in our bodies. Your body has hundreds (if not thousands) of parts and if even one of them goes wrong, you will suffer. What if you couldn’t see or hear? What if your kidney didn’t do its job? Being healthy is a great blessing but we often take it for granted.

The same thing applies to practically every other aspects of our lives. A few days ago I had a power outage. There was no electricity which meant no computer, no Internet, no television, and even no lighting. The outage lasted for just a few hours but it made me realize how important electricity is to our modern lives. I took electricity for granted and only when it was gone did I feel how important it actually is.

I can continue on and on but the message is clear: don’t take things for granted. Be grateful. Even seemingly small things matter.

Do You Understand Your Child..?

Understand Your Childrens

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU MARRIED THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of my seminars, a woman asked me a

question. She said, "How do I know if I married

the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next

to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your

husband?"

In all seriousness, how do you know?

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,

you fell in love with your spouse. You

anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and

liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In

fact, it was a completely spontaneous

experience. You didn't have to DO anything.

That's why it's called "falling" in love - because

it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my

feet." Think about the imagery of that

expression. It implies that you were just

standing there; doing nothing, and then something

came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and

spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria

of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY

relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls

become a bother (if they come at all), touch is

not always welcome (when it happens), and your

spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,

drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every

relationship, but if you think about your

marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference

between the initial stage when you were in love

and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start

asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as

you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of

the love you once had, you may begin to desire

that experience with someone else. This is when

marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse

for their unhappiness and look outside their

marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and

sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But

sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a

friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie

outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love

with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY

you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same

situation a few years later. Because (listen

carefully) THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN

MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S

LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous

experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You

can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it

day in and day out. That's why we have the

expression "the labour of love." Because it takes

time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,

it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to

make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love

is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you

can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed

with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe

(such as gravity), there are also laws for

relationships. Just as the right diet and

exercise program makes you physically stronger,

certain habits in your relationship WILL make

your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and

effect. If you know and apply the laws, the

results are predictable - you can "make" love

Life Is A Miracle, Don't Let It Slip Away,

Life is a miracle, don't let it slip away,

Open your heart to others; give of yourself each day.

See the beauty in everyone regardless of where they've been,

Some have a difficult journey and really need a friend.

Share your gifts and talents; listen with your heart.

Do the things you dream about but don't have time to start.

Pick a bouquet of flowers; show someone that you care,

Be gracious and forgiving; life is never fair.

Hold on to your courage, you may need it down the road,

We all have a cross to bear; it could be a heavy load.

If you practice all these things no matter where you roam,

You may find both sun and rain, but you'll never feel alone.

Life Still Has A Meaning

Life Still Has Meaning

If there is a future

there is time for mending-

Time to see your troubles

come to an ending.

Life is never hopeless

however great your sorrow-

If you’re looking forward

to a new tomorrow.

If there is time for wishing

then there is time for hoping-

When through doubt and darkness

you are blindly groping.

Though the heart be heavy

and hurt you may be feeling-

If there is time for praying

there is time for healing.

So if through your window

there is a new day breaking-

Thank God for the promise,

though mind and soul be aching,

If with harvest over

there is grain enough for gleaning-

There is a new tomorrow

and life still has meaning.

LESSONS OF LOVE

A 91-year-old woman died after living a very long dignified life. When she met God, she asked Him something that had really bothered her for a very long time. "If Man was created in God's image, and if all men are created equal, why do people treat each other so badly?"

God replied that each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. It is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people and our relationships with God. This confused the woman, so God began to explain:

"When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always what they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know what is in their hearts. Remove your own masks to let people know who you really are."

"When someone steals from you it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have. You never know when you might lose it. Never take your friends or family for granted, because today and sometimes only this very moment is the only guarantee you may have."

"When someone inflicts injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a very fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best as you can, it's the one thing that you are sure to have forever."

"When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, do not judge them by how they look or act, instead base it on the contents of what is in their hearts."

"When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don't turn your back on love, because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings you will make up for all of your past hurts. Times a thousand fold."

"When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is often the most difficult and painful of life's experiences, but it is also the most courageous thing a person can do."

"When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is Man's greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptations. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted."

"When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities."

"When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control."

Upon hearing the Lord's wisdom, the old woman became concerned that there are no lessons to be learned from man's good deeds. God replied that Man's capacity to love is the greatest gift He has. At the root of kindness and love, and each act of love also teaches us a lesson.

The woman's curiosity deepened. God, once again began to explain:

"When someone loves us, it teaches us love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, acceptance, and all of these can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused."

"When you enter someone's life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have resulted in more loving or more hurting? More comfort or more pain? More joy or more sadness? Each one of us has the power over the balance of the love in the world. Use it wisely!"

Don't miss an opportunity to nudge the world's scale in the right direction!

Comfort for the Depressed

“All creation keeps on groaning together and being in pain together until now.” (Romans 8:22) Human suffering was great when that was written over 1,900 years ago. Many were depressed. Therefore, We were urged: “Speak consolingly to the depressed souls.”—1 Thessalonians 5:14.

Today, human distress is even greater, and more people than ever are depressed. But should that surprise us? Not really, for the Bible identifies these as “the last days” and calls them “critical times hard to deal with.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5) Jesus Christ foretold that during the last days, there would be “fearful sights.”—Luke 21:7-11; Matthew 24:3-14.

When people experience prolonged anxiety, fear, grief, or other such negative emotions, they often become depressed. The cause of depression or extreme sadness may be the death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job, or an unrelenting sickness. People also become depressed when they develop a sense of worthlessness, when they feel they are a failure and have let everyone down. Anyone may be devastated by a stressful situation, but when a person develops a sense of hopelessness and is unable to see any way out of a bad

situation, severe depression may result.

People in ancient times experienced similar feelings. Job suffered sickness and personal misfortune. He felt that God had abandoned him, so he expressed a loathing toward life. (Job 10:1; 29:2, 4, 5) Jacob was depressed over the apparent death of his son, refusing to be comforted and wishing to die. (Genesis 37:33-35) Feeling guilt over serious error, King David lamented: “All day long I have walked about sad. I have grown numb.”—Psalm 38:6, 8; 2 Corinthians 7:5, 6.

Today, many have become depressed because of overtaxing themselves, trying to follow a daily routine that is beyond their mental, emotional, and physical resources. Apparently stress, coupled with negative thoughts and emotions, can affect the body and contribute to a chemical imbalance in the brain, thus producing depression.

Relax Before You Go Home

Decompress Before You Go Home :

After a day of stress and pressure at the office, most of us arrive home cranky, tired and dispirited. We gave the best we had to our colleagues and customers and, sadly, we have nothing left for the people we love the most: our spouses, children and friends. Like gladiators who have just completed the battle of their lives, we wearily walk to your favorite easy chair and order family members to leave us alone until we regain our composure.

Taking ten minutes to decompress before you walk through the front door of your home will help you to avoid making this scenario a part of your daily routine. Rather than leaving work, driving home and rushing into your house, you spend a few minutes sitting alone in your car while parked in the driveway. Use this time to relax and reflect on what you would like to accomplish during the next few hours with your family. Remind yourself how much your partner and children need you and how many fun things you can do if you simply put your mind to it.

To further decompress, you could go for a quick walk around the block or listen to a favorite piece of classical music before you open the door and greet your family. Be creative about your personal decompression time and treat it as a chance to renew and recharge so you are the person your family wants you to be when you greet them.

Love… in Sickness & in Health

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he’d told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg. It had been a year since Susan, 34, became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. And all she had to cling to was her husband, Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again.

Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first, this comforted Susan, and fulfilled Mark’s need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized the arrangement wasn’t working. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But she was still so fragile, so angry how would she react?

Just as he predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. “I’m blind!” she responded bitterly. “How am I supposed to know where I am going? I feel like you’re abandoning me.”

Mark’s heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it.

And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat.

Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus-riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, and his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday… Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself.

On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying the fare to exit the bus, the driver said, “Boy, I sure do envy you. “

Susan wasn’t sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, “Why do you say that you envy me?”

The driver responded, “It must feel good to be taken care of and protected like you are.”

Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and again asked, “What do you mean?”

The driver answered, “You know, every morning for the past week, a fine-looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you as you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches until you enter your office building.

Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady.”

Friendship is not a song....

Even when they meet us, they pass without a greeting;

These very friends; our food had been eating.

Those who were very close to us and our relations;

Now, have decided to change their stations.

Those for whom we bore the brunt of neglect,

Are today, pessimism personified and perfect.

For those who we gave up half our lives;

The result was just a bundle of knives.

How we regret the day we met,

Today, we just regret & regret.

However, we did learn one thing;

Friendship is not the song that everyone can sing....

Some inspirational quotes

Trust in yourself. Your perceptions are often more accurate than you are willing to believe.

Black, Claudia

Do not fear mistakes- there are none.

Davis, Miles

Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.

Cicero

One learns by doing a thing; for though you think you know it, you have no certainty until you try.

Sophocles

Do the thing you are afraid to do and the death of fear is certain.

Emerson, Ralph Waldo

The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time.

Lincoln, Abraham

Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain.

Kahlil Gibran

Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

Stoppard, Tom

One sees great things from the valley, only small things from the peak.

Chesterton, G. K.

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.

Jung, Carl

To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.

Stevenson, Robert Louis

Stop thinking and talking about it and there is nothing you will not be able to know.

Zen Paradigm

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.

Seneca

There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take.

Drucker, Peter

With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity.

Nair, Keshavan

Trust that still, small voice that says, "This might work and I'll try it."

Mariechild, Diane

Life shrinks and expands in proportion to one's courage.

Nin, Anais

Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.

Black, Claudia

I was taught that the way of progress is neither swift nor easy.

Curie, Marie

You've got to find the force inside you. Campbell, Joseph

I need to take an emotional breath, step back and remind myself who's actually in charge of my life.

Knowlton, Judith

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Roosevelt, Eleanor

Once we make our decision, all things will come to us. Auspicious signs are not a superstition, but a confirmation. They are a response.

Deng Ming-Dao

The only way to pass any test is to take the test. anonymous

If you are not living on the edge, you take up too much room.

Native American saying

Why God Gives Problems ?

I DON"T KNOW ITS RIGHT OR WRONG SECTION

BUT I BELIVE FOLOWING R TRUTH

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you - depending on how you respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to

use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring.

Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:

1.God Gives Problems To DIRECT You.

Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your attention? "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."

2. God Gives Problems To INSPECT You.

People are like tea bags...if you want to know what's inside them, just drop them into hot ever water! Has God tested your faith with a problem What do problems reveal about you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience."

3. God Gives Problems To CORRECT You.

Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure. It's likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned. Sometimes we only learn the value of something... health, money, a relationship. .. by losing it. "It was the best thing that could have happened to me,for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."

4. God Gives Problems To PROTECT You.

A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management's actions were eventually discovered. "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good...

5. God Gives Problems To PERFECT You.

Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you're going to take with you into eternity.

"We can rejoice when we run into problems...

they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."

God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.

"Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way"

Saying "I love you" without the spoken word

Often a gesture is stronger than a word or three words Three Words, that being the statement of affection with the reiterated term. .. I Love You. The concept stated is a hardy endearment to many, But why speak when the conduct is extremely loud and clear by this other method?

Think of the hand that has held yours at a time when encouragement was needed or praise was felt by both. It is the unspoken understanding between people that creates a lasting bond. A person can easily remember the touch of comfort and emotion that another feels through the senses. Have you ever just wanted to grab hold of someone and let them know that how you feel? Chances are that this being is overwhelmed with love of the motion you have just extended.

Placing your heart in view of others is complete sincerity with enviable charm. Prioritize this relationship and sacrifice some self indulgences. Treat the significant other with kind words, courtesy and possibly even material items , this is all done to reflect your thoughts about them. Is it possible that a person will almost always reciprocate with the same attitude you have set forth? I believe that when one kind indication is given, another is sure to follow with possibly a louder magnitude.

Love is expressed in various ways without speaking it directly. Take for instance the Father who wants to spend time with a daughter who resides in another state 1200 miles from his home. As a truck driver he has rearranged his daily runs to establish a route that would indirectly drive him right to her front door. His daughter knows his schedule and is sure to have his favorite dinner prepared for him, right down to the baby carrots he loves! It is without question that the love shared between the Father and Daughter is a mutual admiration. Can you recall an event that you prepared for, got dressed up for or even cleaned your house like a crazed person ? This was all to impress the other person and show them you took the time to please only them . It's love, and it is why we create special attention to one another.

Show your feelings of love without making a statement to someone, Act on it! and relish in the feeling that this powerful word has so much to give to so many. Just like a picture being worth thousands of dollars, our actions when loving another is a figure beyond denomination. Spend your emotions and factor in the possible returns.

We've all heard the saying, "Actions speak louder than words". It's true. We can say things to people and mean one thing while acting out the opposite. For example, "I love you". We say it and then we're impatient, short, curt, and hurtful when it comes to how we behave, especially to those we say matter to us the most . Here are a few suggestions on how to say 'I love you', without saying anything at all.

Breakfast in bed. It doesn't have to be elegant. How about just a fresh cut flower and a pop tart? It is, after all, the thought that counts, right? Imagine the message you'll be sending your spouse when you let them be the one to sleep in and brought them a pop tart!

Pouring one cup of coffee? Why not make it two? Don't ask, just do it. Show them that you were thinking about them.

Leave a note tucked under their pillow with one sentence of something you admire about them.

If your partmer usually does the laundry, surprise them and throw a load in and not only finish the process but put the clean, folded clothes away.

Picking up after yourself speaks volumes. It says that you consider the worth of your spouse to be more than your personal maid.

Do your own dishes, at least. Most homes have dishwashers and yet, I've seen countless kitchen sinks full of dirty dishes that have sat for days. Just who are you expecting to take care of it?

Do that one chore this week that your partner despises. Is it scrubbing the toilet? Taking out the trash? Mowing? Ironing? Roll up your sleeves and go for it.

You get all cleaned up for the office - why not your special someone, just because? It says that you care how you look for them and not everyone else. Comb the hair, get showered, put on some aftershave (or perfume, as they case may be). Good hygiene is attractive.

Lose some weight. We need to do it for ourselves, but many of us could stand to shed a few pounds so that we are our best for our loved ones. It says we care not only for them but for ourselves, enough to live a healthy life and be able to spend a longer lifetime with them.

Spend the day looking for the best in your partner and commenting on those things, choosing to not point out the negative. For every seven praises, it only takes one condemnation to erase them all and cause a person to feel like a failure. Make your partner feel like a winner and point out the positive.

Is there a project unfinished or that you've been dragging your feet over and is a sore spot with your mate? Why not quietly get back to it and get 'er done!

Leave a love note tucked in the pants pocket, wallet, lunch bag... What a lift during a hard day at work.

Pack a light picnic (crackers, cheese, fruit, drinks) and take a ride to their favorite 'spot'. Top of the hill, down by the beach, etc. I once witnessed a young woman arrive about ten minutes before her husband down by the lake we lived by and she covered the table along the pathway with a linen table cloth, wine glass, real plates, flatware and they celebrated his birthday right there. It was beautiful and she went to a lot of preparation to make it so nice. If it spoke volumes to me, imagine what it did for him!

That's the thing about telling someone you love them without saying anything - you spend a lot of time thinking about them as you think about what you're doing (or going to do) for them. Have fun and come up with some of your own. Someone will love you for it.

The power of confidence

The power of confidence- personified! Read story below.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."

-- Mahatma Gandhi, Statesman

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The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.

Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him.

"I can see that something is troubling you," he said.

After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said, "I believe I can help you."

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."

Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!

"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

"I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried. "I hope he hasn't been bothering you. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller. "

And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.