Informative Material

Believe The Impossible

2009-11-30T20:26:00.000-08:00

Every great achievement was once impossible until someone set a goal to make it a reality.

Lewis Carroll's famous masterpiece Through the Looking Glass contains a story that exemplifies the need to dream the impossible dream. There is a conversation between Alice and the queen, which goes like this:

"I can't believe that!" said Alice.

"Can't you?" the queen said in a pitying tone. "Try again, draw a long breath, and shut your eyes."

Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said. "One can't believe impossible things."

"I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."

When you dare to dream, many marvels can be accomplished. The trouble is, most people never start dreaming their impossible dream.

Stand Up And Speak Up

2009-11-29T20:28:00.000-08:00

Stand Up And Speak Up

Courage is the ability to face danger.

uncertainty or pain

Without being peralyzed by fear.

If you're experieriencing problems with getting results in regards to your Money , family , agreementa or questions - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you need help -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you see injustice or a need - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If some one is taking your kindness for weakness - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If tou're feeling pressured to do something against your values

Or time constraints -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you are not clear and feeling anxious about what others are asking or

Expecting from you -Stand Up And Speak Up.

If you want to turn your life around in a positive direction - Stand Up And Speak Up.

If someone is taking advantage of your time , money ,body, turst , love or

Friendship -- Stand Up And Speak Up.

If there is something in life you want to accomplish -- Stand Up And Speak Up.

Friendship is like this only....

2009-11-28T21:04:00.001-08:00

Friendship is not about “I m sorry “ its about “abbe teri galti hai “

Friendship is not about “I m there for u” or “I missed u “ it’s about “kahan marr gaya saale “

Friendship is not about “I understand “ its about “sab teri wajah se hua manhus“

Friendship is not about “I care for u “ its about “kamino tumhe chhod ke kahan jaunga “

Friendship is not about “I m happy for ur success “its about “chal party de saale“

Friendship is not about “I love that girl“ its about “saalo izzat se dekho tumhari bhabhi hain “

Friendship is not about “R u coming for outing tomorrow “ its about “ nautanki nahi, hum kal bahar ja rahe hai “

Friendship is not about “Get well soon “ its about “ Itna piyega toh yehi hoga“

Friendship is not about “All the best for ur career“ its about “ bahut hua, abhi toh switch mar saale“

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho

2009-11-27T21:21:00.001-08:00

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

Meri Raatein. Teri Yaadon se saji rehti hain

Meri Saansein Teri Khushbo mai basi rehti hain

Meri Aankhon mai Tera Sapna saja rehta hai

Haan Mere Dil mi Tera hi Aks basa rehta hai

Is tarah Mere Dil ke boht Paas ho Tum

Jis tarah paas hi Sheh-e-Rag ke Khuda rehta hai

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

Mere Aangan mai lage phool gawahi deinge

Mai ne Arsey se kisi Phool ko dekha bhi nahi

Tujh ko socha hai to phir Tujh ko hi socha hai

Tere siwa.. kisi aur ko socha bhi nahi

Tum ko Maloom bhi shayad ye kabhi ho k na ho..!!

DON’T TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED

2009-11-27T21:14:00.001-08:00

With Thanksgiving coming, let’s remember once again how important it is to be grateful for what we have. Don’t be so busy with your life that you never stop and count your blessings. Don’t just want more and more without ever expressing your gratitude for what you already have.

I recently read You: The Owner’s Manual, a very good book on health. There is plenty of good advice there. But reading the book also made me realize one thing: there are so many things that could go wrong in our bodies. Your body has hundreds (if not thousands) of parts and if even one of them goes wrong, you will suffer. What if you couldn’t see or hear? What if your kidney didn’t do its job? Being healthy is a great blessing but we often take it for granted.

The same thing applies to practically every other aspects of our lives. A few days ago I had a power outage. There was no electricity which meant no computer, no Internet, no television, and even no lighting. The outage lasted for just a few hours but it made me realize how important electricity is to our modern lives. I took electricity for granted and only when it was gone did I feel how important it actually is.

I can continue on and on but the message is clear: don’t take things for granted. Be grateful. Even seemingly small things matter.

Do You Understand Your Child..?

2009-11-26T21:07:00.000-08:00

Understand Your Childrens

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU MARRIED THE RIGHT PERSON?

2009-11-25T20:33:00.000-08:00

During one of my seminars, a woman asked me a

question. She said, "How do I know if I married

the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next

to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your

husband?"

In all seriousness, how do you know?

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,

you fell in love with your spouse. You

anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and

liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In

fact, it was a completely spontaneous

experience. You didn't have to DO anything.

That's why it's called "falling" in love - because

it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my

feet." Think about the imagery of that

expression. It implies that you were just

standing there; doing nothing, and then something

came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and

spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria

of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY

relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls

become a bother (if they come at all), touch is

not always welcome (when it happens), and your

spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,

drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every

relationship, but if you think about your

marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference

between the initial stage when you were in love

and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start

asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as

you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of

the love you once had, you may begin to desire

that experience with someone else. This is when

marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse

for their unhappiness and look outside their

marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and

sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But

sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a

friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie

outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love

with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY

you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same

situation a few years later. Because (listen

carefully) THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN

MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S

LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous

experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You

can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it

day in and day out. That's why we have the

expression "the labour of love." Because it takes

time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,

it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to

make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love

is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you

can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed

with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe

(such as gravity), there are also laws for

relationships. Just as the right diet and

exercise program makes you physically stronger,

certain habits in your relationship WILL make

your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and

effect. If you know and apply the laws, the

results are predictable - you can "make" love

Life Is A Miracle, Don't Let It Slip Away,

2009-11-24T20:21:00.000-08:00

Life is a miracle, don't let it slip away,

Open your heart to others; give of yourself each day.

See the beauty in everyone regardless of where they've been,

Some have a difficult journey and really need a friend.

Share your gifts and talents; listen with your heart.

Do the things you dream about but don't have time to start.

Pick a bouquet of flowers; show someone that you care,

Be gracious and forgiving; life is never fair.

Hold on to your courage, you may need it down the road,

We all have a cross to bear; it could be a heavy load.

If you practice all these things no matter where you roam,

You may find both sun and rain, but you'll never feel alone.

Life Still Has A Meaning

2009-11-23T20:18:00.001-08:00

Life Still Has Meaning

If there is a future

there is time for mending-

Time to see your troubles

come to an ending.

Life is never hopeless

however great your sorrow-

If you’re looking forward

to a new tomorrow.

If there is time for wishing

then there is time for hoping-

When through doubt and darkness

you are blindly groping.

Though the heart be heavy

and hurt you may be feeling-

If there is time for praying

there is time for healing.

So if through your window

there is a new day breaking-

Thank God for the promise,

though mind and soul be aching,

If with harvest over

there is grain enough for gleaning-

There is a new tomorrow

and life still has meaning.

LESSONS OF LOVE

2009-11-22T20:32:00.000-08:00

A 91-year-old woman died after living a very long dignified life. When she met God, she asked Him something that had really bothered her for a very long time. "If Man was created in God's image, and if all men are created equal, why do people treat each other so badly?"

God replied that each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. It is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people and our relationships with God. This confused the woman, so God began to explain:

"When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always what they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know what is in their hearts. Remove your own masks to let people know who you really are."

"When someone steals from you it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have. You never know when you might lose it. Never take your friends or family for granted, because today and sometimes only this very moment is the only guarantee you may have."

"When someone inflicts injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a very fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best as you can, it's the one thing that you are sure to have forever."

"When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, do not judge them by how they look or act, instead base it on the contents of what is in their hearts."

"When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don't turn your back on love, because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings you will make up for all of your past hurts. Times a thousand fold."

"When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is often the most difficult and painful of life's experiences, but it is also the most courageous thing a person can do."

"When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is Man's greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptations. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted."

"When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities."

"When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control."

Upon hearing the Lord's wisdom, the old woman became concerned that there are no lessons to be learned from man's good deeds. God replied that Man's capacity to love is the greatest gift He has. At the root of kindness and love, and each act of love also teaches us a lesson.

The woman's curiosity deepened. God, once again began to explain:

"When someone loves us, it teaches us love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, acceptance, and all of these can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused."

"When you enter someone's life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have resulted in more loving or more hurting? More comfort or more pain? More joy or more sadness? Each one of us has the power over the balance of the love in the world. Use it wisely!"

Don't miss an opportunity to nudge the world's scale in the right direction!

Comfort for the Depressed

2009-11-21T20:39:00.001-08:00

“All creation keeps on groaning together and being in pain together until now.” (Romans 8:22) Human suffering was great when that was written over 1,900 years ago. Many were depressed. Therefore, We were urged: “Speak consolingly to the depressed souls.”—1 Thessalonians 5:14.

Today, human distress is even greater, and more people than ever are depressed. But should that surprise us? Not really, for the Bible identifies these as “the last days” and calls them “critical times hard to deal with.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5) Jesus Christ foretold that during the last days, there would be “fearful sights.”—Luke 21:7-11; Matthew 24:3-14.

When people experience prolonged anxiety, fear, grief, or other such negative emotions, they often become depressed. The cause of depression or extreme sadness may be the death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job, or an unrelenting sickness. People also become depressed when they develop a sense of worthlessness, when they feel they are a failure and have let everyone down. Anyone may be devastated by a stressful situation, but when a person develops a sense of hopelessness and is unable to see any way out of a bad

situation, severe depression may result.

People in ancient times experienced similar feelings. Job suffered sickness and personal misfortune. He felt that God had abandoned him, so he expressed a loathing toward life. (Job 10:1; 29:2, 4, 5) Jacob was depressed over the apparent death of his son, refusing to be comforted and wishing to die. (Genesis 37:33-35) Feeling guilt over serious error, King David lamented: “All day long I have walked about sad. I have grown numb.”—Psalm 38:6, 8; 2 Corinthians 7:5, 6.

Today, many have become depressed because of overtaxing themselves, trying to follow a daily routine that is beyond their mental, emotional, and physical resources. Apparently stress, coupled with negative thoughts and emotions, can affect the body and contribute to a chemical imbalance in the brain, thus producing depression.

Relax Before You Go Home

2009-11-20T20:24:00.001-08:00

Decompress Before You Go Home :

After a day of stress and pressure at the office, most of us arrive home cranky, tired and dispirited. We gave the best we had to our colleagues and customers and, sadly, we have nothing left for the people we love the most: our spouses, children and friends. Like gladiators who have just completed the battle of their lives, we wearily walk to your favorite easy chair and order family members to leave us alone until we regain our composure.

Taking ten minutes to decompress before you walk through the front door of your home will help you to avoid making this scenario a part of your daily routine. Rather than leaving work, driving home and rushing into your house, you spend a few minutes sitting alone in your car while parked in the driveway. Use this time to relax and reflect on what you would like to accomplish during the next few hours with your family. Remind yourself how much your partner and children need you and how many fun things you can do if you simply put your mind to it.

To further decompress, you could go for a quick walk around the block or listen to a favorite piece of classical music before you open the door and greet your family. Be creative about your personal decompression time and treat it as a chance to renew and recharge so you are the person your family wants you to be when you greet them.

Love… in Sickness & in Health

2009-11-19T20:18:00.001-08:00

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he’d told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg. It had been a year since Susan, 34, became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. And all she had to cling to was her husband, Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength and confidence she needed to become independent again.

Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first, this comforted Susan, and fulfilled Mark’s need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized the arrangement wasn’t working. Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But she was still so fragile, so angry how would she react?

Just as he predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. “I’m blind!” she responded bitterly. “How am I supposed to know where I am going? I feel like you’re abandoning me.”

Mark’s heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it.

And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat.

Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus-riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, and his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday… Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself.

On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying the fare to exit the bus, the driver said, “Boy, I sure do envy you. “

Susan wasn’t sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, “Why do you say that you envy me?”

The driver responded, “It must feel good to be taken care of and protected like you are.”

Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and again asked, “What do you mean?”

The driver answered, “You know, every morning for the past week, a fine-looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you as you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches until you enter your office building.

Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady.”

Friendship is not a song....

2009-11-18T20:32:00.001-08:00

Even when they meet us, they pass without a greeting;

These very friends; our food had been eating.

Those who were very close to us and our relations;

Now, have decided to change their stations.

Those for whom we bore the brunt of neglect,

Are today, pessimism personified and perfect.

For those who we gave up half our lives;

The result was just a bundle of knives.

How we regret the day we met,

Today, we just regret & regret.

However, we did learn one thing;

Friendship is not the song that everyone can sing....

Some inspirational quotes

2009-11-17T20:48:00.001-08:00

Trust in yourself. Your perceptions are often more accurate than you are willing to believe.

Black, Claudia

Do not fear mistakes- there are none.

Davis, Miles

Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.

Cicero

One learns by doing a thing; for though you think you know it, you have no certainty until you try.

Sophocles

Do the thing you are afraid to do and the death of fear is certain.

Emerson, Ralph Waldo

The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time.

Lincoln, Abraham

Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain.

Kahlil Gibran

Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

Stoppard, Tom

One sees great things from the valley, only small things from the peak.

Chesterton, G. K.

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.

Jung, Carl

To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.

Stevenson, Robert Louis

Stop thinking and talking about it and there is nothing you will not be able to know.

Zen Paradigm

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.

Seneca

There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take.

Drucker, Peter

With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity.

Nair, Keshavan

Trust that still, small voice that says, "This might work and I'll try it."

Mariechild, Diane

Life shrinks and expands in proportion to one's courage.

Nin, Anais

Saying no can be the ultimate self-care.

Black, Claudia

I was taught that the way of progress is neither swift nor easy.

Curie, Marie

You've got to find the force inside you. Campbell, Joseph

I need to take an emotional breath, step back and remind myself who's actually in charge of my life.

Knowlton, Judith

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Roosevelt, Eleanor

Once we make our decision, all things will come to us. Auspicious signs are not a superstition, but a confirmation. They are a response.

Deng Ming-Dao

The only way to pass any test is to take the test. anonymous

If you are not living on the edge, you take up too much room.

Native American saying

Why God Gives Problems ?

2009-11-16T21:19:00.000-08:00

I DON"T KNOW ITS RIGHT OR WRONG SECTION

BUT I BELIVE FOLOWING R TRUTH

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you - depending on how you respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to

use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring.

Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:

1.God Gives Problems To DIRECT You.

Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your attention? "Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."

2. God Gives Problems To INSPECT You.

People are like tea bags...if you want to know what's inside them, just drop them into hot ever water! Has God tested your faith with a problem What do problems reveal about you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience."

3. God Gives Problems To CORRECT You.

Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure. It's likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned. Sometimes we only learn the value of something... health, money, a relationship. .. by losing it. "It was the best thing that could have happened to me,for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."

4. God Gives Problems To PROTECT You.

A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management's actions were eventually discovered. "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good...

5. God Gives Problems To PERFECT You.

Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you're going to take with you into eternity.

"We can rejoice when we run into problems...

they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady."

God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.

"Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way"

Saying "I love you" without the spoken word

2009-11-15T21:16:00.001-08:00

Often a gesture is stronger than a word or three words Three Words, that being the statement of affection with the reiterated term. .. I Love You. The concept stated is a hardy endearment to many, But why speak when the conduct is extremely loud and clear by this other method?

Think of the hand that has held yours at a time when encouragement was needed or praise was felt by both. It is the unspoken understanding between people that creates a lasting bond. A person can easily remember the touch of comfort and emotion that another feels through the senses. Have you ever just wanted to grab hold of someone and let them know that how you feel? Chances are that this being is overwhelmed with love of the motion you have just extended.

Placing your heart in view of others is complete sincerity with enviable charm. Prioritize this relationship and sacrifice some self indulgences. Treat the significant other with kind words, courtesy and possibly even material items , this is all done to reflect your thoughts about them. Is it possible that a person will almost always reciprocate with the same attitude you have set forth? I believe that when one kind indication is given, another is sure to follow with possibly a louder magnitude.

Love is expressed in various ways without speaking it directly. Take for instance the Father who wants to spend time with a daughter who resides in another state 1200 miles from his home. As a truck driver he has rearranged his daily runs to establish a route that would indirectly drive him right to her front door. His daughter knows his schedule and is sure to have his favorite dinner prepared for him, right down to the baby carrots he loves! It is without question that the love shared between the Father and Daughter is a mutual admiration. Can you recall an event that you prepared for, got dressed up for or even cleaned your house like a crazed person ? This was all to impress the other person and show them you took the time to please only them . It's love, and it is why we create special attention to one another.

Show your feelings of love without making a statement to someone, Act on it! and relish in the feeling that this powerful word has so much to give to so many. Just like a picture being worth thousands of dollars, our actions when loving another is a figure beyond denomination. Spend your emotions and factor in the possible returns.

We've all heard the saying, "Actions speak louder than words". It's true. We can say things to people and mean one thing while acting out the opposite. For example, "I love you". We say it and then we're impatient, short, curt, and hurtful when it comes to how we behave, especially to those we say matter to us the most . Here are a few suggestions on how to say 'I love you', without saying anything at all.

Breakfast in bed. It doesn't have to be elegant. How about just a fresh cut flower and a pop tart? It is, after all, the thought that counts, right? Imagine the message you'll be sending your spouse when you let them be the one to sleep in and brought them a pop tart!

Pouring one cup of coffee? Why not make it two? Don't ask, just do it. Show them that you were thinking about them.

Leave a note tucked under their pillow with one sentence of something you admire about them.

If your partmer usually does the laundry, surprise them and throw a load in and not only finish the process but put the clean, folded clothes away.

Picking up after yourself speaks volumes. It says that you consider the worth of your spouse to be more than your personal maid.

Do your own dishes, at least. Most homes have dishwashers and yet, I've seen countless kitchen sinks full of dirty dishes that have sat for days. Just who are you expecting to take care of it?

Do that one chore this week that your partner despises. Is it scrubbing the toilet? Taking out the trash? Mowing? Ironing? Roll up your sleeves and go for it.

You get all cleaned up for the office - why not your special someone, just because? It says that you care how you look for them and not everyone else. Comb the hair, get showered, put on some aftershave (or perfume, as they case may be). Good hygiene is attractive.

Lose some weight. We need to do it for ourselves, but many of us could stand to shed a few pounds so that we are our best for our loved ones. It says we care not only for them but for ourselves, enough to live a healthy life and be able to spend a longer lifetime with them.

Spend the day looking for the best in your partner and commenting on those things, choosing to not point out the negative. For every seven praises, it only takes one condemnation to erase them all and cause a person to feel like a failure. Make your partner feel like a winner and point out the positive.

Is there a project unfinished or that you've been dragging your feet over and is a sore spot with your mate? Why not quietly get back to it and get 'er done!

Leave a love note tucked in the pants pocket, wallet, lunch bag... What a lift during a hard day at work.

Pack a light picnic (crackers, cheese, fruit, drinks) and take a ride to their favorite 'spot'. Top of the hill, down by the beach, etc. I once witnessed a young woman arrive about ten minutes before her husband down by the lake we lived by and she covered the table along the pathway with a linen table cloth, wine glass, real plates, flatware and they celebrated his birthday right there. It was beautiful and she went to a lot of preparation to make it so nice. If it spoke volumes to me, imagine what it did for him!

That's the thing about telling someone you love them without saying anything - you spend a lot of time thinking about them as you think about what you're doing (or going to do) for them. Have fun and come up with some of your own. Someone will love you for it.

The power of confidence

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The power of confidence- personified! Read story below.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."

-- Mahatma Gandhi, Statesman

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The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.

Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him.

"I can see that something is troubling you," he said.

After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said, "I believe I can help you."

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."

Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!

"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

"I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried. "I hope he hasn't been bothering you. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller. "

And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

Encourage Yourself & The World Is Yours !

2009-11-13T20:58:00.000-08:00

Confidence and Self-Esteem were best friends. They went everywhere together. If Confidence bought a new dress, Self-Esteem bought one just like it. They were very close.

One day a new kid came to their school. His name was Peer Pressure. He had a friend called Hateful Words. They decided to give Confidence a hard time.

They constantly teased her. They forced her to do terrible things. It was so terrible that Confidence lost Self-Esteem. When Self-Esteem wanted to start some classes, Confidence said they wouldn't be any good.

Then one day, Peer Pressure introduced Confidence to Doubt. He wanted to ruin Confidence, but Peer Pressure said he couldn't yet. Self Esteem couldn't understand what was wrong with Confidence. Confidence now hung around with Depression, Low Self-Esteem, and Overeating.

These girls were friends of Peer Pressure. Self-Esteem no longer had any friends. She no longer felt good about herself. She went to see her Imaam. Imaam Good Words told her how to talk to Confidence. He introduced her to his daughter, Encouragement.

Encouragement and Self-Esteem went to find Confidence. Self Esteem hoped she wasn't too late. The girls found Confidence in a stupor. She was no longer a vibrant, happy young girl. There were dark circles under her eyes. She had gained so much weight from eating that she couldn't move.

Encouragement gasped and Self-Esteem cried. She begged Encouragement to do something.

Encouragement began to hug Confidence. She kissed her and loved her. She told her that she was a beautiful young lady who had a lot going for her.

Encouragement held Confidence so tightly that Self-Esteem thought she would smother her. Confidence began to cry. As she cried, she seemed to lose weight. Then a bright light suddenly glowed from Confidence and she began to smile.

Peer Pressure and his friends didn't like what Encouragement was doing and tried to attack her. They hit at her and pulled at her, but they couldn't pull her away from Confidence. Then Confidence began to speak.

"Get away from me, Peer Pressure. Take your friends and go. You no longer have any power over me." Confidence was now a glowing light. She and her friends made sure that Peer Pressure and his gang never bothered anyone in their town again.

If you feel that Encouragement is not your friend, then try to find Encouragement in yourself. Self-Esteem and Confidence will follow

>> Golden Words of Swami Vivekananda <<

2009-11-12T21:03:00.001-08:00

When I Asked God for Strength

He Gave Me Difficult Situations to Face

When I Asked God for Brain & Brown

He Gave Me Puzzles in Life to Solve

When I Asked God for Happiness

He Showed Me Some Unhappy People

When I Asked God for Wealth

He Showed Me How to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Favors

He Showed Me Opportunities to Work Hard

When I Asked God for Peace

He Showed Me How to Help Others

God Gave Me Nothing I Wanted

He Gave Me Everything I Needed

A POSITIVE THOUGHT

2009-11-11T21:01:00.001-08:00

If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.

If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it.

He sends you flowers every spring, and a sunrise every morning.

Whenever you want to talk, He'll listen.

He could live anywhere in the universe, and He chose your heart.

Second Richest Man in the World

2009-11-10T21:15:00.001-08:00

There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second

richest man who has donated $31 billion (85% of his fortune) to charity.

Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

1) He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

2) He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3)He still lives in the same small 3 bedroom house in mid-town Omaha,that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he haseverything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or afence.

4) He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.

5) He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.

6)His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only oneletter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals forthe year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.

7) He has given his CEO's only two rules.

Rule number 1: Do not lose any of your share holder's money.

Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

8 ) He does not socialize with the highsociety crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself somepop corn and watch television.

9) BillGates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 yearsago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with WarrenBuffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But whenGates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became adevotee of Warren Buffet.

10) Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

11) His advice to young people: Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself.

HOW TO ENJOY THE PRESENT

2009-11-09T20:52:00.000-08:00

Living with your mind focused on the future causes you to miss out on the now and our lives are made out of moments of now, not of moments of the future. By living in the future you don’t actually live at all.

Of course, it’d be nice to live so I’m trying to enjoy the journey – the present. Here are some ways to do that:

1. Focus

Pure focus is bliss. When your thoughts, actions and emotions are all directed towards a single function you are focusing and you are in the present. You should get lost in your work. Set a deadline for yourself to finish a task and see your level of focus skyrocket.

Right now I’m using e.ggtimer.com and have it set for 20 minutes to finish this article (which I’ve pre-outlined). Perhaps the deadline is too tight, but that’s great, because it’s a challenge that doesn’t allow for procrastinations or over thinking. Set a task and do it.

Go with the flow.

2. Mastermind

Two of my friends and I meet up every now and then to talk about business, ideas, and just random stuff really. It’s fairly flexible and unprofessional, but we still label it as a mastermind.

Although the very concept of a mastermind is focused on getting results in the future I feel there’s also a sense of living in the moment, because we all just sit around a table or outside on the grass and talk. There’s no fancy technology, very little note taking and it’s just pure discussion. And perhaps most importantly: it’s fun.

When we mastermind time flies. Just a couple of days ago we spent 6+ hours just talking about stuff and it was the most enjoyable 6 hours I’ve had in a while.

Find like-minded individuals and bump your heads together (figuratively – don’t get all Pachycephalosaurus on me).

3. Take it slow

Being in a rush doesn’t give you a chance to appreciate the present. I understand the various apparent urgencies you may feel in your life. For some time I was rushing to earn an income online and although a degree of hustle is required for any form of achievement, I find taking things slower and simply being patient more rewarding.

I’ve accepted that my writing career isn’t going to explode overnight and that any side businesses I build aren’t going to be insanely popular at launch. And with that comes a sense of calm. Yes, it may take years to reach goals I’ve set, but years I have, moments I need.

Slow down the speed of life. Urgency is rarely urgency.

4. Find balance

Or “The Middle Way” as it’s known in Buddhism. Anything in excess is dangerous. Practice the art of work-life separation and strive to do everything in moderation.

When you introduce balance into your life you become mindful of what you’re doing, giving you a chance to acknowledge moments for what they are: precious gifts of chronology. Don’t let anything consume your life.

Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Balance your life.

5. Be certain

Where are you going? Understand what you want the future to hold and set a plan to accommodate for that. This gives you perhaps the most powerful tool in achievement: certainty.

If you believe in something, are passionate about it and can visualise the end result so clearly that you can taste it, you feel certain that it’s inevitable. You’re no longer wondering if, but when. And this is powerful.

With this certainty you can stop stressing over what may or may not happen in the future because there’s simply no wondering – you’re going to achieve it and that’s final. Achievement simply becomes a matter of doing X to achieve Y.

This may seem like a cold way to approach life, but when the outcome Y is understood, each moment X can be fully appreciated as they aren’t bombarded by self doubt or uncertainty. You can live in the present because your future becomes a predetermined (but still open to spontaneity) mass of wonderment.

Set a direction for your life and enjoy the ride.

6. Unfocus

Productiveness isn’t always beneficial. It’s great to get stuff done, but at times it’s even better to sit back and lose yourself in something that has no tangible result, something that is simply fun.

Personally I love getting fish and chips with a friend and just watching the world go by, or playing some co-op video games if I’m in the mood for fighting hordes of aliens. You don’t need to dominate your life with getting things done.

Top 10 Unwritten Rules For Working Women

2009-11-08T21:58:00.000-08:00

When it comes to gender stereotyping, it's better to know what you're up against.

Come to think of it, when was the last time you heard or read the word "sexism?"

That's what ForbesWoman Community member Ann Daly, Ph.D., an executive coach and professional development specialist for women based in Austin , Texas , wants to know. She replied to a conversation thread on salary and self-esteem on our LinkedIn group. Elizabeth Miles, chief executive of a U.K.-based legal software company, started the conversation with the suggestion that women generally don't assert their value in the workplace. "It's as if women can feel less deserving."

That brought in the mail. Victoria Pynchon, a commercial mediator and arbitrator at ADR Services, a Southern California alternative dispute resolution firm, had this to say: "Sexism still exists (shocked! I'm shocked!). When orchestras recently began conducting auditions behind screens so that the "jury" couldn't see the gender of the musician, callbacks for women doubled. It's not their fault ... So let's not go blaming ourselves."

On her blog, Ann Daly, whose sixth book, Do-Over! How Women Are Reinventing Their Lives, is scheduled for release in February 2010, points out that "the 21st-century version of sexism is nothing blatant, nothing Mad Men. Men, for the most part, have learned to appear politically correct. Most of them are savvy enough not to engage, at least consciously, in so-called 'gender stereotyping.' "

Sexism, whatever you call it, hasn't disappeared. But it's better to know exactly what you're up against. To that end, Daly pulled together the top 10 unwritten rules for working women. "Don't let them sabotage your ambitions."

Men get the benefit of the doubt. Men generally get hired on their promise and women on their demonstrated experience. Men are usually taken at their word, while women get challenged more, required to deliver data and substantiation for their views.

Looks matter. Bare those arms and legs at your own risk: Flesh conjures up images of the beach and the boudoir, not the boardroom.

You won't get sufficient feedback. Professional development depends upon rigorous, comprehensive, ongoing feedback. Your (male) boss may not feel comfortable delivering that information to you. You need to be direct in asking for it from him and from other colleagues and team members.

A working mother's commitment is assumed to be ambivalent. At worst, mothers are seen as potential flight risks from the organization, and therefore not worthy of any further investment. At best, they are denied plum travel and assignments, under the guise of benevolent protectionism. Don't let anyone else speak or decide for you.

Actually, it is personal. In mid-career, at the point where everyone brings comparable talent to the table, it's who you know, not what you know, that gets you promoted. As HR pros will tell you, you don't push yourself to the top, you get pulled there. Men knew what they were doing when they invented the old boys' club. From the get-go, women need to be just as savvy, cultivating mentors, allies and champions.

Men are bred for self-confidence. From Little League to fraternities to the golf course, men's lives emphasize competition. By the time they get to the workplace, they are seasoned competitors, with all of the self-confidence that comes from having successfully weathered both the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat. Consider the consequences: One internal corporate study showed that women will apply for an open job only if they meet 100% of the criteria listed, while men will apply if they meet just 60%. In order to assume that same level of self-possession (and entitlement), you have to design your own path to self-confidence.

Women are rendered invisible until they demonstrate otherwise. If you want to be noticed, you've got to offer your ideas, approach a mentor, ask for the assignments, build a network, convey your aspirations and communicate your achievements. I've heard Sharon Allen, chairman of Deloitte LLP, tell this cautionary tale from her early career, when she was passed over for a promotion that she had earned. Allen asked why she had been passed over, since she had done X, Y and Z to earn it. "Oh," her boss replied, "I didn't realize that you'd done X, Y and Z ." It's one thing to lose the game because you were outperformed, but it's another thing altogether to lose because you were never in play.

Women don't take charge, they take care. Research has shown that both men and women will judge a woman less favorably who asks for a higher starting salary than a man with the same credentials asking for the same thing. Men are rewarded for being outspoken, while women are expected to go along for the greater good. In order to negotiate this "woman penalty," you've got to dance that fine line between assertive and pushy, authoritative and bossy, smart and arrogant. Brush up on your cha-cha.

Women are different. Make no mistake. "Different" never means "equal." "Different" is code for "other." And in any us-them situation, you know what happens to the outsiders. Just think back to the "separate but equal" credo of racial segregation. Defining women as "different" (whether it's done by men or by women) serves to keep women positioned as outsiders, despite our increasingly dominant numbers in the workplace.

Women make great worker bees, but visionary leaders -- not so much. Margaret Thatcher is often quoted as saying: "If you want something said, ask a man. If you want something done, ask a woman." Unfortunately, that's the kind of thinking that keeps the vast majority of women stuck in middle management, while men move forward into leadership roles. At a certain point, you've got to give up the grindstone to pursue vision and strategy.

Source of problem

2009-11-06T03:05:00.001-08:00

The Source of the Problem

A man feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here's what you do,' said the Doctor, 'stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and s o on until you get a response.'

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, 'I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens.'

Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

No response.

So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?'

Again he gets no response so, He walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

'James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!'

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Moral of the story:The problem may not be with the other one as we always think, it could be very much within us

EIGHT LIES OF A "MOTHER"

2009-11-05T21:23:00.000-08:00

This story begins when I was a child: I was born poor. Often we hadn't enough to eat. Whenever we had some food, Mother often gave me her portion of rice. While she was transferring her rice into my bowl, she would say "Eat this rice, son! I'm not hungry."

This was Mother's First Lie.

As I grew, Mother gave up her spare time to fish in a river near our house; she hoped that from the fish she caught, she could give me a little bit more nutritious food for my growth. Once she had caught just two fish, she would make fish soup. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the what was still left on the bone of the fish I had eaten, My heart was touched when I saw it. Once I gave the other fish to her on my chopstick but she immediately refused it and said, "Eat this fish, son! I don't really like fish."

This was Mother's Second Lie.

Then, in order to fund my education, Mother went to a Match Factory to bring home some used matchboxes, which she filled with fresh match sticks. This helped her get some money to cover our needs. One wintry night I awoke to find Mother filling the matchboxes by candlelight. So I said, "Mother, go to sleep; it's late: you can continue working tomorrow morning." Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep, son! I'm not tired."

This was Mother's Third Lie.

When I had to sit my Final Examination, Mother accompanied me. After dawn, Mother waited for me for hours in the heat of the sun. When the bell rang, I ran to meet her.. Mother embraced me and poured me a glass of tea that she had prepared in a thermos. The tea was not as strong as my Mother's love, Seeing Mother covered with perspiration, I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too. Mother said "Drink, son! I'm not thirsty!".

This was Mother's Fourth Lie.

After Father's death, Mother had to play the role of a single parent. She held on to her former job; she had to fund our needs alone. Our family's life was more complicated. We suffered from starvation. Seeing our family's condition worsening, my kind Uncle who lived near my house came to help us solve our problems big and small. Our other neighbors saw that we were poverty stricken so they often advised my mother to marry again. But Mother refused to remarry saying "I don't need love."

This was Mother's Fifth Lie.

After I had finished my studies and gotten a job, it was time for my old Mother to retire but she carried on going to the market every morning just to sell a few vegetables. I kept sending her money but she was steadfast and even sent the money back to me. She said, "I have enough money."

That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

I continued my part-time studies for my Master's Degree. Funded by the American Corporation for which I worked, I succeeded in my studies. With a big jump in my salary, I decided to bring Mother to enjoy life in America but Mother didn't want to bother her son; she said to me "I'm not used to high living."

That was Mother's Seventh Lie.

In her dotage, Mother was attacked by cancer and had to be hospitalized. Now living far across the ocean, I went home to visit Mother who was bedridden after an operation. Mother tried to smile but I was heartbroken because she was so thin and feeble but Mother said, "Don't cry, son! I'm not in pain."

That was Mother's Eighth Lie.

Telling me this, her eighth lie, she died. YES, MOTHER WAS AN ANGEL! M - O - T - H - E - R

"M" is for the Million things she gave me,

"O" means Only that she's growing old,

"T" is for the Tears she shed to save me,

"H" is for her Heart of gold,

"E" is for her Eyes with love-light shining in them,

"R" means Right, and right she'll always be,

Put them all together, they spell "MOTHER" a word that means the world to me.

For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom's presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. For those who aren't so blessed, this is even more beautiful.

Keys to life

2009-11-04T21:06:00.000-08:00

Keys to life

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Our Core Essence. Deep down we are all beautiful beings worthy of love and support. The sweet innocence of babies and young children is a clear example of this. Yet for most of us, the shining essence with which we came into this life became obscured over the years as our family and others were unable to give us the kind of unconditional love and support we so craved. As children, when we were repeatedly told that we were not good enough or were punished just for being who we are, thick layers of confusion and doubt developed, clouding our divine essence. Layers of fear and insecurity were woven into our personalities.

The Mask. By the time we are grown, most of us have developed a protective mask or persona to hide these layers of fear and insecurity from others, and at times even from ourselves. Outwardly we might appear happy or content, yet on the inside most of us to varying degrees feel unhappy with who we are. Yet beneath it all, that shining essence is still there. No matter how much we may have forgotten, no matter how thick those overshadowing layers may be, our beautiful core essence is and has always been there.

Accepting and Understanding Oneself. By choosing to accept and understand all of who you are—both your deep shining essence and the layers of dark clouds within—you can invite that beautiful inner essence to shine through the clouds and to shine again in your life. When fears, dark thoughts, or difficult emotions arise, first choose to accept that they are there. Then work towards understanding these dark clouds and where they came from. Ask for divine guidance as you explore and transform these dark places.

Courage. It takes courage to accept and work to understand our fears and weaknesses. Yet by doing our best to be fully ourselves in all our strengths and weaknesses, our relationships can grow richer, deeper, and more meaningful. This may be challenging, as some people are unable or unwilling to accept certain parts of us. Yet as those around us see us becoming more real and honest with them, many will also be inspired to be more real and honest with us. Thus, instead of continually avoiding or denying those clouds or dark layers in both ourselves and others, we open to a deeper, more authentic way of living and of relating to others.

Accepting and Understanding Others. As you develop greater acceptance and understanding of yourself, you will notice that others, too, have lost touch with their shining core essence. As you work to accept and understand yourself, it is most important that you choose also to give this gift to those around you. Acceptance of what is, coupled with understanding of what we can change and what we cannot, allows us to find the courage to be all that we can be, and to empower others in doing the same

He is not just a man....He is your soulmate

2009-11-03T21:04:00.000-08:00

He saw her over the gulf of eternity

Sitting under the great oak.

Her body swathed in white chiffon

and lace,

Her knees up

Her body cradled over

the box... the box of gold..

her gift.

She sat there crying,

Her grief touching every fibre of her soul.

For inside the box, was her gift,

of love, her soul, her desire, her need.

The priceless seeds of her womanhood.

With love

those seeds would grow,

venture out of the box into the sunlight,

and through their growth

fill her life with color

the sweet bouquet of flowers,

the wonder of birds and butterflies

attracted by it's beauty.

But her box was grey,

Covered with years of neglect,

the seeds resting on bone-dry soil.

Her heart in hibernation.

Her tears tracing lines down her cheek.

He watched her.

He understood.

She fell asleep.

She woke to see him there

The box cradled lovingly in his lap

Toolbox by his side.

He was a million miles away

across the great gulf

yet seemed to be right next to her.

And she watched,

as his loving hands treasured it

wiped away the years

brought back the dazzling shine of the gold,

made all the years of neglect disappear.

Time stood still as she watched.

The gold was battered,

dented and scraped,

marks of the pain in her life.

Each mark disappeared under his loving attention,

each dent pulled out

each scrape buffed clean.

Time, he seemed to have endless time,

as he focused his love on each flaw,

one by one,

tears in his eyes as he understood the pain each one signified,

then erasing it with his loving hands.

The gentle light from his eyes,

and the water from his tears,

nourished her seeds,

bringing life and beauty where there once was desolation.

And then he was there,

next to her.

She lost herself in his eyes

as he tenderly placed the treasure

in her hands.

"Take it forever!" she started to cry,

but a tender brush of his lips against hers stifled the cry in her

throat.

"My love," he said,

"God has placed us on opposite sides of a great gulf.

Only He can make that gulf disappear, and He will,

in His own time.

Until then, we have His work to do,

each on our own side.

When that work is done, He will look on us with favor,

for it is He who sent me to you."

He took her hands in his

touched his lips to hers, and said,

"But this covenant I make: when you need me, summon me.

I will come to your side.

And every night I shall return,

to wipe away every scratch,

fix every flaw,

that life has put on the gift of your womanhood.

I will lie with you and ease your pain.

And when the gulf is gone,

when eternity is ours,

I will place your gift in a place of honor,

So the world will see, and understand

That I treasure you

your womanhood

your love

your precious spirit.

They will all know that you have finally received

the love you deserve."

And he was gone.

She wept.

Then a soft voice was heard from all around her

and inside her...

"My, child. When you thought it was a man you needed

I let you choose a man.

But he took your gift, and put it on a shelf

To wither

To die.

When you thought it was a lover you needed

You chose a lover

Who simply used your gift as a stepping stool

to reach over the walls in his life which he despised.

No, it is not a man you need,

for a man cannot comprehend your heart.

And it is not a lover you need. A lover is like a firefly,

illuminating your life for a moment,

then leaving you to deal with the darkness

Until it flashes again.

So I have taken it into my own hands

and shown you what you truly need.

He is not just a man, though a man he is.

He is not just a lover, though a lover he is.

He is the man I have given you forever..

He is your soulmate

Each day it opens a new account for you.

2009-11-02T21:00:00.001-08:00

Imagine...

There is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out ALL OF IT, of course!!!

Each of us has such a bank. Its name is TIME.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft.

Each day it opens a new account for you.

Each night it burns the remains of the day.

If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow."

So live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success! The clock is running. Make the most of today.

Thoughts By The Wise

2009-11-01T21:24:00.000-08:00

The test of a man or woman’s breeding is how they behave in a quarrel.

– George Bernard Shaw

When tempers are frayed, and an argument is in progress, it is very difficult for anyone to listen with courtesy to an opposing point of view. If we could ask the mind on such occasions why it doesn’t listen, it would answer candidly, “Why should I? I already know I’m right.” We may not put it into words, but the other person gets the message:

“You’re not worth listening to.” It is this lack of respect that offends people in an argument, much more than any difference of opinion.

But respect can be learned – in part by acting as if we had respect. We show respect by simply listening with complete attention. Try it and see: the action is very much like that of a classical drama. For a while there is “rising action.” The other person’s temper keeps going up; language becomes more and more vivid; everything is heading for a climax. But then comes the denouement. The other person begins to quiet down: his voice becomes gentler, his language kinder, all because you have not retaliated or lost your respect for him.

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Beauty is all very well at first sight; but who ever looks at it when it has been in the house three days?

– George Bernard Shaw

Often we try to build relationships on what is pleasing to us, particularly on physical attraction. But if there is anything sure about physical attraction, it is that it has to change. We cannot build on it; its very nature is to come and go.

Physical attraction is a sensation – here one minute and gone the next. Love is a relationship. It is pleasant to be with someone who is physically attractive, but how long can you enjoy an aquiline nose? How long can you thrill to the timbre of a voice when it doesn’t say what you like? It’s very much like eating: no matter how much you are attracted to chocolate pie, there is a limit to how much of it you can enjoy. Beyond that limit, if somebody merely mentions chocolate, your stomach stages a revolt.

If you want to build a relationship, build it on what endures. To build on a firm foundation, we have to stop asking, “What do I like?” and ask only, “What can I give?” Then there is joy in everything, because there is joy in the relationship itself – in ups and downs, through the pleasant and the unpleasant, in sickness and in health.

Those who are selfless rejoice here and rejoice there; they rejoice wherever they go. They rejoice and delight in the good they have done.

– The Buddha

When we live for others, we’ll find we are less oppressed by the natural changeability of life. Instead of wanting, even demanding, that everything go our way, we’ll feel at peace when everything is going everybody else’s way. In other words, we will be less likely to get discouraged or depressed by the normal ups and downs of life.

And when we are able to function freely in all the varied relationships and vicissitudes of life, we will gradually find an inner certitude that we are equal to every challenge. Then, just because somebody is agitated, we won’t be afraid. Just because someone is unfavorably disposed towards us, we will not get diffident or annoyed. The Buddha says these outward changes of fortune can never affect our joy, which is permanent.

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The joy of the spirit ever abides, but not what seems pleasant to the senses. Both these, differing in their purpose, prompt us to action.

– Katha Upanishad

When we let the senses follow their own lead, they cannot help going after pleasure; that is their nature. As a result, it should come as no surprise to see that most of the world today is on the road to sensory satisfaction.

It takes real toughness, and a lot of practice, to wait out all of the blandishments of passing pleasure when they lead us away from our real goal. When we lack this toughness, despite better goals we may cherish in our hearts, we will not be able to take the road that leads where we want to go. It is a poignant paradox: wanting only happiness, yet going systematically in the other direction. But if we keep choosing the joy of the spirit, I can assure you, we will reach our goal.

BEST WAY FOR A SINNER

2009-10-31T04:21:00.000-07:00

This is based on Gita; on transformation of a man from sinner to Yogi. Hope this is useful to You.

Even if one is a worst sinner, he would be considered as the best of sages if and only if he is dependent on the Supreme Lord Krishna Himself and nothing else, for this is the way of any best sage.

Implications Similar to the above mentioned Venpa, there is an instruction in “Man’s Eternal Quest” written by Swami Yogananda which goes like this, “Give God His first place! Love Him and not His Gifts!”

We could easily understand that we are carried away by the glory of the life we live. We want betterment in our life and that too exactly in the way we believe it should be.

A mythological story goes like this a Brahmin Boy went to his school. He did some mischief and his Teacher caste a spell on him saying that he will become a Hog in his next birth. The Boy repented and advised his friends to find him and kill him as soon as he takes birth of the Hog. In due course of time the boy died and took the birth of Hog. The friends traced him by chanting Mantras and with a Rod tried to hit and kill the hog-boy. The hog-boy cried to them and said, “Don’t Kill me please! I am lovely! My mother breast feeds me with love! All my siblings warmly touch and play with me. I am just enjoying!!!”

This story shows the power of Maya! It binds us! It deviate us to hellish life! Such a situation can only be avoided if we give God the First Place and seek him without asking anything in return.

Even if one is the greatest sinner who is unable to leave his sinful and deadly deeds can be considered as a Greatest Sage, if and only if, he depends truly on the lord alone. Deeper Implications What do the words “Depending on Lord alone and nothing else” signify? It signifies not only complete surrender to the Lord but also complete love toward him such that no other thoughts dare to enter the mind. If one loves the God in such a way and has surrendered to him completely, how could he have even traces of sinful behavior? Certainly Not!!! Then why does the God says so? One cannot become a master overnight! He needs to patiently practice for many years with dedication and perseverance before he becomes a master. But a Spiritual Aspirant can be considered as a master as soon as he resolves to depend only on the God without asking any thing in return. One can achieve glory only by right resolve. To rightly resolve is to surrender in Toto to God and remain in his protection without grief. Same message is once again delivered in Chapter 18 66th Sloka more clearly.

Keep Believing In Yourself

2009-10-30T21:54:00.000-07:00

There May Be Days When You Get Up,

In The Morning And Things Aren't The,

Way You Has Hoped They Would Be

That's When You Have Tell Yourself

That Will Get Better.

There Are Times When People Disappoint,

You And Let You Down

But Those Are The Time When You Must

Remind Yourself To Trust Your Own

Judgments And Opinions

To Keep Your Life Focused On Believing In

Yourself And All That You Are Capable Of

There Will Be Challenges To Face And

Changes To Make In Your Life

And It Is Up To You To Accept Them

Constantly Keep Yourself Headed In The Right Direction For You

It May Not Be Easy At Times

But In Those Time Of Struggle You Will Find A Stronger Sense Of Who You Are.

So When The Days Come That Are Filled

With Frustration And Unexpected Responsibilites Remember To Believe In Yourself

And All You Want Your Life To Be

Because The Challenges And Will Only Help You To Find The Goals That You Know Are Meant To Come True For You.

Tips To Be A Better Mom

2009-10-29T22:21:00.000-07:00

It goes without saying that mothers have an important role to play in their children's lives. Here are a few tips on how you can be a better parent to your child:

Respect and value your child:

Always respect your children -- respect and listen to their views and values, their opinions. Give them your complete attention when they want to talk to you. Put whatever activity you are engaged in on hold, and if that's not possible, set a time for when you can chat, and make sure to stick to it.

Encourage your children every opportunity you get. Make them feel special and express your love for them often. Hug them, kiss them and say 'I love you' everyday, not just when they are young but also as they grow older. Let them feel your love and affection as often as you can.

Talk to your kids:

Conversing with children is the best way to influence their ability and love for learning. Children who are spoken to often as infants will understand more words when they are toddlers and pre-schoolers than others. Communication also strengthens the mother-child bond and eases out the communication barriers, even as kids grow older.

Have fun with them:

Mothers are so busy with their day-to-day routines that they forget to have fun with their children. Take out one-on-one time to enjoy with your child. Do something that both of you like -- indulge in outdoor games, art and craft, board games, go for a walk, chat, cook -- do anything at all that makes you feel good. Laugh together, tickle each other, dance, sing songs, just have FUN!

Read to your little ones:

Reading to your children is the best way to inculcate a reading habit in them, which leads to a love of learning as they grow older. Reading also creates an emotional bond between parent and the child, whether it's lap-time reading, bedtime reading or any other way of doing it that you both enjoy. Moreover, it develops their imagination, creativity, vocabulary and communication skills.

Keep your children safe:

All parents want to keep their kids safe. Remember to take the necessary precautions, whether it is making them sit in the backseat of the car while driving, or making sure that there is someone responsible with them at all times. Make sure your home is childproof, with electrical outlets out of reach, furniture edges rounded off, glass items out of the way etc.

Teach your children values:

Make sure to impart good values to your kids -- it's the best gift you'll ever give them. Values are the foundation of a child's character. Teach your children values through everyday interactions, stories and by the way you conduct yourself. While story-telling, however, make sure you don't connect the story to the child. If, for example, you want to teach your little one about honesty, tell him/ her interesting stories related to it. Do not say, "You should behave in the same manner as so-and-so did and always tell the truth" -- the message will not sink in. To a youngster, this feels like nagging and moralizing, which will go in one ear and out the other.

Be a good role model:

Remember that your kids are watching you all the time and want to ape you in every possible way. Even very young children take in and listen to everything their parents say and do, so remain aware of your actions and behavior around them. For example, if you talk rudely to the domestic help, you will not be very successful in teaching your children the value of politeness. Model the behavior that you want them to develop.

Keep your kids healthy, but allow them their personal likes and dislikes when it comes to food:

Provide nutritious meals for your children, but allow them to make their own choices about what they like or don't like. As long as you are providing them with nutritious options and not junk food, they will almost always make the right choices. With young children, try and be creative with their meals, so that it's fun for them. If, for instance, there is cooked vegetable and chapattis for dinner, fold some cooked veggies into each chapatti so that the kids can enjoy it as a roll.

Set rules and limits:

A good mother is firm and flexible. Don't leave discipline only to a child's father. Set reasonable rules and limits and discuss them with your kids beforehand. Follow through with the consequences whenever applicable. However, there are times when you have to be flexible and ease the rules; times when youngsters are tired, sleepy, hungry or not well.

Be just and fair:

Treat all your children in the same manner. However, don't try to be overly fair, as it will get in the way -- for example, if you are out shopping and spot a book that one of your kids needs for a reference project, you do not necessarily have to buy something for the other child. Similarly, bring the other child what he/ she requires when it's needed. As long as you are providing for both of them equally, they will understand and not make an issue. When you try to be overly fair, children tend to find faults with every little thing you do.

Don't interfere in your children's fights unless it's necessary:

Allow your kids to settle issues on their own. As long as there is no bullying or physical violence, do not get involved in their fights. When you try to resolve their disputes, you will be required to take sides and this will not go down well with one of them. It is better to allow children to handle their own problems as far as possible. If they are not able to do it, or you feel like the situation is getting to you, ask them to play separately till they are able to be civil to each other and find a solution. You will be doing them a favor by teaching them the values of co-operation, problem-solving and compromise in the process.

Honor their father:

One of the best things a mother can do is Honor her children's father in front of them. Even if you are separated or divorced, never speak ill about your spouse in front of your children. Talk about him with respect and teach your children to respect him too.

Get the kids to interact with extended family:

Get your children to bond with extended family -- uncles, aunts, cousins. Make an effort so that they interact with both the maternal and paternal sides. Even if you don't get along with your in-laws, teach your children to respect their grandparents. They will hold you in higher esteem for doing that.

Keep your self-respect intact:

Always expect to be treated with respect by others in the presence of your kids and by your kids themselves. Do not allow anyone to cross a line. Maintain your dignity under all circumstances; be honest and keep your integrity intact always.

Take care of yourself:

Sleep well and take out time for yourself. Keep yourself in good health. Remember, a happy, relaxed mother can give more of herself to her children and family than an overworked, tense parent.

What Is Love??????????

2009-10-28T22:10:00.001-07:00

Love is eternal

Love is the wind, whispering its many thoughts to you in the night.

Love is the feeling I felt when I first met you

Love is flying on the tails of many dreams

Love is the moon, shining alone, as a beacon in the hours of darkness

Love is the alpha emotion

Love is the entity of all

Love is the stars, always hanging in the endless darkness of sky

Love is the ever lasting conflict within

Love is the conquest of fulfillment that we feel needs to be met

Love is the bonding of two souls, entwined in the beatings of their hearts

Love is a journey to discover the souls of others

Love is an adoration, a forever night long vigil, never ending

Love is an everlasting yearning to be connected to mind and heart

Love is spending hours drowning into the depths of your eyes

Love is the feeling I feel when I look at you . . .

5 Signs that your Girl Friend is a Psycho

2009-10-27T22:09:00.000-07:00

5 Signs that your Girl Friend is a Psycho

It's often difficult to gauge how crazy your girlfriend is, especially in the beginning of a relationship. The truth is, all chicks are nuts but here are five ways to know if she's average crazy or if you should sleep with one eye open and hide all the sharp objects in the house.[/size]

5 Signs that your Girl Friend is a Psycho

1. She Has More Than 3 Cats.

Face it. You're dating the crazy cat lady. You know why all crazy cat ladies wind up living alone by the end of their lives? All of their ex-boyfriends are buried in the backyard

2. She Keeps Tabs on You.

If your girlfriend is too clingy and texts and calls you non-stop, stalks you on Facebook, and e-mails you creepy love messages, it's time to move to Montana. This is the girl that burns an effigy on your lawn if she finds out you lied to her about what you had for breakfast.

3. She Asks If You Will Ever Leave Her?

Any girl who does this before you're married, or even after, is silently calculating the jail time she will have to do after running you down with a Jetta, if you leave her for someone else.

4. She is Way Too Jealous.

If she's ready to throw down with any woman you talk to, even the girl behind the counter at Starbucks, start working on that restraining order now.

She Recites Bible Quotes.

If she quotes John 3:16 when you ask her about her day, prepare for a lifetime of watching Mel Gibson films, protesting outside of free clinics, and attending Sarah Palin fundraisers.

Adjustment To Life

2009-10-26T22:25:00.000-07:00

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered."Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."

The husband agreed, so each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances,she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes."What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your lists."

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

In life, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfectness in them to change the way we see them.

20 Great Ways to Find More Free TIME..

2009-10-25T22:29:00.000-07:00

'The real problem of leisure time is how to keep others from using yours.''

- Arthur Lacey

Are there a hundred different things you wish you could do with your life someday '” anything from exercising to meditation or yoga to writing that novel you always wished you could write to reading more to relaxing and watching the sunrise? But perhaps you never have the time, like most people.

The truth is, we all have the same amount of time, and it'™s finite and in great demand. But some of us have made the time for doing the things we love doing, and others have allowed the constant demands and pressures and responsibilities of life to dictate their days.

It'™s time to move from the second group back into the first. Reclaim your time. Create the life you want and make the most of the free time you lay claim to. It'™s not hard, though it does take a little bit of effort and diligence.

Not all of these will be applicable to your life '” choose the ones you can apply and give them a try:

1. Take a time out. Freeing up your time starts with taking a step back to take a good look at your life. You need to block off at least an hour. Several hours or half a day is better. A whole day would be awesome. A weekend would be even more ideal, though not necessary practical for many folks. With this block of time, take a look at your life with some perspective. Is it what you'™ve always wanted? How would you get to where you'™ve always wanted to be? What do you enjoy doing, but don'™t have enough time to do? What things actually fill up your day? Are there things you could drop or minimize to make more time? We'™ll look at some of these things in the following items, but it starts with taking a time out to think and plan.

2. Find your essentials. What is it that you love to do? Make a short list of 4-5 things. These are the things you want to make room for.

3. Find your time-wasters. What do you spend a lot of your time on that isn'™t on your essential list? Take a close look at these things and really think about whether they'™re necessary, or if there are ways to reduce, minimize or eliminate these things. Sometimes you do things because you assume they'™re necessary, but if you give it some thought you can find ways to drop them from your life. Figure out what you do simply to waste time '” maybe surfing certain sites, watching TV, talking a lot at the water cooler, etc. You'™re going to want to minimize these time-wasters to make room for the more important stuff, the stuff that makes you happy and that you love to do.

4. Schedule the time. As you sit down and think about your life and what you want to do, versus what you actually do, you will be looking at ways to free up time. It'™s crucial that you take a blank weekly schedule (you can just write it out on a piece of paper, or use your calendar) and assign blocks for the things you love '” the stuff on your essentials list. If you want to exercise, for example, when will you do it? Put the blocks of time on your schedule, and make these blocks the most important appointments of your week. Schedule the rest of your life around these blocks.

5. Consolidate. There are many things you do, scattered throughout your day or your week, that you might be able to consolidate in order to save time. A good example is errands '” instead of running one or two a day, do them all in one day to save time and gas. Another example is email, or any kind of communication '” batch process your email instead of checking and reading and responding throughout the day. Same thing with meetings, paperwork, anything that you do regularly.

6. Cut out meetings. This isn'™t possible for everyone, but in my experience meetings take up a lot of time to get across a little information, or to make easy decisions that could be made via email or phone. As much as you can, minimize the number of meetings you hold and attend. In some cases this might mean talking to your boss and telling her that you have other priorities, and asking to be excused. In other cases this might mean asking the people holding the meeting if you can get the info in other ways. If so, you'™ve saved yourself an hour or so per meeting (sometimes more).

7. De clutter your schedule. If you have a heavily packed schedule, full of meetings and errands and tasks and projects and appointments, you'™re going to want to weed it out so that it'™s not so jam-packed. Find the stuff that'™s not so essential and cancel them. Postpone other stuff. Leave big blank spaces in your schedule.

8. Re-think your routine. Often we get stuck in a routine that'™s anything but what we really want our days to be like. Is there a better way of doing things? You'™re the creator of your life '” make a new routine that'™s more pleasant, more optimal, more filled with things you love.

9. Cut back on email. I mentioned email in an earlier point above, regarding consolidating, but it'™s such a major part of most people'™s lives that it deserves special attention. How often do you check email? How much time do you spend composing emails? If you spend a major part of your work day on email, as many people do (and as I once did), you can free up a lot of time by reducing the time you spend in email. Now, this won'™t work for everyone, but it can work for many people: choose 2-3 key times during the day to process your inbox to empty, and keep your responses to 5 sentences.

10. Learn to say "NO". If you say 'yes''to every request, you will never have any free time. Get super protective about your time, and say 'no''to everything but the essential requests.

11. Keep your list to 3. When you make out your daily to-do list, just list the three Most Important Tasks you want to accomplish today. Don'™t make a laundry list of tasks, or you'™ll fill up all your free time. By keeping your task list small, but populated only by important tasks, you ensure that you are getting the important stuff done but not overloading yourself.

12. Do your Biggest Rock first. Of the three Most Important Tasks you choose for the day, pick the biggest one, or the one you'™re dreading most, and do that first. Otherwise you'™ll put that off as much as possible and fill your day with less important things. Don'™t allow yourself to check email until that Big Rock is taken care of. It starts your day with a sense of major accomplishment, and leaves you with a lot of free time the rest of the day, because the most important thing is already done.

13. Delegate. If you have subordinates or coworkers who can do a task or project, try to delegate it. Don'™t feel like you need to do everything yourself. If necessary, spend a little time training the person to whom you'™re delegating the task, but that little time spent training will pay off in a lot of time saved later. Delegating allows you to focus on the core tasks and projects you should be focusing on.

14. Cut out distractions. What is there around your workspace that distracts you from the task at hand? Sometimes it'™s visual clutter, or papers lying around that call for your attention and action, or email or IM notifiers on your computer that pop up at the wrong time, or the phone, or coworkers. See if you can eliminate as many of these as possible '” the more you can focus, the more effective you'™ll be and the less time you'™ll waste. That equals time saved for the good stuff.

15. Disconnect. The biggest of distractions, for most people, is the Internet. My most productive times are when I'™m disconnected from the grid. Now, I'™m not saying you need to be disconnected all the time, but if you really want to be able to effectively complete tasks, disconnect your Internet so you can really focus. Set certain times of the day for connectivity, and only connect during those periods.

16. Outsource. If you can'™t delegate, see if you can outsource. With the Internet, we can connect with people from all over the world. I'™ve outsourced many things, from small tasks to checking email to legal work to design and editing work and more. That allows me to focus on the things I'™m best at, the things I love doing, and saves me a lot of time.

17. Make use of your mornings. I find that mornings are the absolute best times to schedule the things I really want to do. I run, read and write in the mornings '” three of the four things on my Essentials List (spending time with family is the other thing on the list). Mornings are great because your day hasn'™t been filled with a bunch of unscheduled, demanding, last-minute tasks that will push back those Essentials. For example, if you schedule something for late afternoon, by the time late afternoon rolls around, you might have a dozen other things newly added to your to-do list, and you'™ll put off that late-afternoon Essential. Instead, schedule it for the morning, and it'™ll rarely (if ever) get pushed back.

18. The Golden Right-after- work Time. Other than mornings, I find the time just after work to be an incredible time for doing Essential things. Exercise, for example, is great in the 5-o'™clock hour, as is spending time with family, or doing anything else relaxing.

19. Your evenings. The time before you go to bed is also golden, as it exists every single day, and it'™s usually completely yours to schedule. What do you want to do with this time? Read? Spend time with your kids? Work on a hobby you'™re passionate about? Take advantage of this time.

20. Lunch breaks. If the three golden times mentioned above don'™t work for you, lunch breaks are another good opportunity to schedule things. Some people like to exercise, or to take quiet times, during their lunch breaks. Others use this time to work on an important personal goal or project.

God sent you to me in the walk of life...

2009-10-24T03:48:00.000-07:00

As I was walking, Down the road of life;

I was met by frustration-Sorrow and strife.

I ran into loneliness, And saw it’s need;

To be loved and wanted, Such a sad plead.

I talked with heartache,About love gone bad;

To see it’s pain, Left me sad.

And there was evil, So cold and mean;

It’s violent intent, Was clear to be seen.

But finally came kindness, So warm and dear;

Never asking for anything, Unconditionally clear.

And last there was love, So warm and true;

A gift from God- To me and you!

by Brian Gearheart

PROUD 2 BE INDIAN!!

2009-10-23T22:12:00.001-07:00

HOPE & WISH U GUYS HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH BY D END OF DIS POST!

1. India is the world's largest, oldest, continuous civilization.

2. India never invaded any country in her last 10000 years of history.

3. India is the world's largest democracy.

4. Varanasi, also known as Benares, was called "the ancient city" when Lord Buddha visited it in 500 B.C.E, and is the oldest, continuously inhabited city in the world today.

5. India invented the Number System. Zero was invented by Aryabhatta.

6. The World's first university was established in Takshashila in 700BC. More than 10,500 students from all over the world studied more than 60 subjects. The University of Nalanda built in the 4th century BC was one of the greatest achievements of ancient India in the field of education.

7. Sanskrit is the mother of all the European languages. Sanskrit is the most suitable language for computer software - a report in Forbes magazine, July 1987.

8. Ayurveda is the earliest school of medicine known to humans. Charaka, the father of medicine consolidated Ayurveda 2500 years ago. Today Ayurveda is fast regaining its rightful place in our civilization.

9. Although modern images of India often show poverty and lack of development, India was the richest country on earth until the time of British invasion in the early 17th Century. Christopher Columbus was attracted by India's wealth.

10. The art of Navigation was bornin the river Sindhu 6000 years ago. The very word Navigation is derived from the Sanskrit word NAVGATIH. The word navy is also derived from Sanskrit 'Nou'.

11. Bhaskaracharya calculated the time taken by the earth to orbit the sun hundreds of years before the astronomer Smart. Time taken by earth to orbit the sun: (5th century) 365.258756484 days.

12. The value of pi was first calculated by Budhayana, and he explained the concept of what is known as the Pythagorean Theorem. He discovered this in the 6th century long before the European mathematicians.

13. Algebra, trigonometry and calculus came from India. Quadratic equations were by Sridharacharya in the 11th century. The largest numbers the Greeks and the Romans used were 106 whereas Hindus used numbers as big as 10**53(10 to the power of 53) with specific names as early as 5000 BCE during the Vedic period. Even today, the largest used number is Tera 10**12(10 to the power of 12).

14. IEEE has proved what has been a century old suspicion in the world scientific community that the pioneer of wireless communication was Prof. Jagdish Bose and not Marconi.

15. The earliest reservoir and dam for irrigation was built in Saurashtra.

16. According to Saka King Rudradaman I of 150 CE a beautiful lake called Sudarshana was constructed on the hills of Raivataka during Chandragupta Maurya's time.

17. Chess (Shataranja or AshtaPada) was invented in India.

18. Sushruta is the father of surgery. 2600 years ago he and health scientists of his time conducted complicated surgeries like cesareans, cataract, artificial limbs, fractures, urinary stones and even plastic surgery and brain surgery. Usage of anesthesia was well known in ancient India. Over 125 surgical equipment were used. Deep knowledge of anatomy, physiology, etiology, embryology, digestion, metabolism, genetics and immunity is also found in many texts.

19. When many cultures were only nomadic forest dwellers over 5000 years ago, Indians established Harappan culture in Sindhu Valley (Indus Valley Civilization).

20. The four religions born in India, Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, and Sikhism, are followed by 25% of the world's population.

21. The place value system, the decimal system was developed in India in 100 BC.

22. India is one of the few countries in the World, which gained independence without violence.

23. India has the second largest pool of Scientists and Engineers in the World.

24. India is the largest English speaking nation in the world.

25. India is the only country other than US and Japan, to have built a super computer indigenously

Love of a mother

2009-10-22T21:36:00.001-07:00

An eighteen year old young man met with a fire accident. When the fire caught his clothes, he stripped them off and threw it away. However, he could not remove the tight underwear, for it stuck close to his legs. By this time fire had spread and destroyed his body to a great extent. With unbearable pain he was admitted in the hospital.

The doctors battled to save his life. Finally they told that he could be saved only if human skin suitable and befitting his could be got. His friends and relatives who were gathered there repeatedly kept looking at each other but none came forward to give their skin. At that time, with her heart thumping heavily his mother entered. She who knew the requirements of the doctor pleaded, “Sir! Please take as much as skin you want from my body. Do not be bothered about me. It is enough if my son lives.” The mother’s skin saved her son’s life.

The love of a mother is indeed special but what does God have to say?

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! Isaiah 49:15.

Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!

2009-10-21T22:22:00.000-07:00

Once, there was a guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn't the most beautiful and

gorgeous but for him, she was everything. He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him,

"why do you dream so much about her, when you don't even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not". He felt that was the right way. The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her.

One day when he proposed, she rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.

To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied,

"why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the one

who really loved and cared for her."

The Seven Deadly Sins of a Relationship

2009-10-20T22:20:00.000-07:00

“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” - Emily Kimbrough

Just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do — and I’m sure many of you have stepped into these pitfalls yourselves. I know I have. I’ve learned from my mistakes, and have learned to recognize when I’m making a fatal error, and how to correct it.

If you can avoid these seven things, and focus instead on doing the four things above, you should have a strong relationship. I’m not going to guarantee anything, but I’d give you good odds.

1. Resentment. This is a poison that starts as something small (”He didn’t get a new roll of toilet paper” or “She doesn’t wash her dishes after she eats”) and builds up into something big. Resentment is dangerous because it often flies under our radar, so that we don’t even notice we have the resentment, and our partner doesn’t realize that there’s anything wrong. If you ever notice yourself having resentment, you need to address this immediately, before it gets worse. Cut it off while it’s small. There are two good ways to deal with resentment: 1) breathe, and just let it go — accept your partner for who she/he is, faults and all; none of us is perfect; or 2) talk to your partner about it if you cannot accept it, and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you (not just for you); try to talk to them in a non-confrontational way, but in a way that expresses how you feel without being accusatory.

2. Jealousy. It’s hard to control jealousy if you feel it, I know. It seems to happen by itself, out of our control, unbidden and unwanted. However, jealousy, like resentment, is relationship poison. A little jealousy is fine, but when it gets to a certain level it turns into a need to control your partner, and turns into unnecessary fights, and makes both parties unhappy. If you have problems with jealousy (like I once did), instead of trying to control them it’s important that you examine and deal with the root issue, which is usually insecurity. That insecurity might be tied to your childhood (abandonment by a parent, for example), in a past relationship where you got hurt, or in an incident or incidents in the past of your current relationship.

3. Unrealistic expectations. Often we have an idea of what our partner should be like. We might expect them to clean up after themselves, to be considerate, to always think of us first, to surprise us, to support us, to always have a smile, to work hard and not be lazy. Not necessarily these expectations, but almost always we have expectations of our partner. Having some expectations is fine — we should expect our partner to be faithful, for example. But sometimes, without realizing it ourselves, we have expectations that are too high to meet. Our partner isn’t perfect — no one is. We can’t expect them to be cheerful and loving every minute of the day — everyone has their moods. We can’t expect them to always think of us, as they will obviously think of themselves or others sometimes too. We can’t expect them to be exactly as we are, as everyone is different. High expectations lead to disappointment and frustration, especially if we do not communicate these expectations. How can we expect our partner to meet these expectations if they don’t know about them? The remedy is to lower your expectations — allow your partner to be himself/herself, and accept and love them for that. What basic expectations we do have, we must communicate clearly.

4. Not making time. This is a problem with couples who have kids, but also with other couples who get caught up in work or hobbies or friends and family or other passions. Couples who don’t spend time alone together will drift apart. And while spending time together when you’re with the kids or other friends and family is a good thing, it’s important that you have time alone together. Can’t find time with all the things you have going on — work and kids and all the other stuff? Make time. Seriously — make the time. It can be done. I do it — I just make sure that this time with my wife is a priority, and I’ll drop just about anything else to make the time. Get a babysitter, drop a couple commitments, put off work for a day, and go on a date. It doesn’t have to be an expensive date — some time in nature, or exercising together, or watching a DVD and having a home-cooked dinner, are all good options. And when you’re together, make an effort to connect, not just be together.

5. Lack of communication. This sin affects all the others on this list — it’s been said many times before, but it’s true: good communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow. If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities. If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them. If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out. Communication doesn’t just mean talking or arguing — good communication is honest without being attacking or blaming. Communicate your feelings — being hurt, frustrated, sorry, scared, sad, happy — rather than criticizing. Communicate a desire to work out a solution that works for you both, a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change. And communicate more than just problems — communicate the good things too (see below for more).

6. Not showing gratitude. Sometimes there are no real problems in a relationship, such as resentment or jealousy or unrealistic expectations — but there is also no expression of the good things about your partner either. This lack of gratitude and appreciation is just as bad as the problems, because without it your partner will feel like he or she is being taken for granted. Every person wants to be appreciated for all they do. And while you might have some problems with what your partner does (see above), you should also realize that your partner does good things too. Does she wash your dishes or cook you something you like? Does he clean up after you or support you in your job? Take the time to say thank you, and give a hug and kiss. This little expression can go a long way.

7. Lack of affection. Similarly, everything else can be going right, including the expression of gratitude, but if there is no affection among partners then there is serious trouble. In effect, the relationship is drifting towards a platonic status. That might be better than many relationships that have serious problems, but it’s not a good thing. Affection is important –everyone needs some of it, especially from someone we love. Take the time, every single day, to give affection to your partner. Greet her when she comes home from work with a tight hug. Wake him up with a passionate kiss (who cares about morning breath!). Sneak up behind her and kiss her on the neck. Make out in the movie theater like teen-agers. Caress his back and neck while watching TV. Smile at her often.

8. Bonus sin: Stubbornness. This wasn’t on my original list but I just thought about it before publishing this post, and had to add it in. Every relationship will have problems and arguments — but it’s important that you learn to work out these problems after cooling down a bit. Unfortunately, many of us are too stubborn to even talk about things. Perhaps we always want to be right. Perhaps we never want to admit that we made a mistake. Perhaps we don’t like to say we’re sorry. Perhaps we don’t like to compromise. I’ve done all of these things — but I’ve learned over the years that this is just childish. When I find myself being stubborn these days, I try to get over this childishness and suck it up and put away my ego and say I’m sorry. Talk about the problem and work it out. Don’t be afraid to be the first one to apologize. Then move past it to better things

The Beautiful Colour Of Love

2009-10-19T21:21:00.001-07:00

What colour is God,

Asked the child with skin so fair

Is he white like me,

Does he have light hair?

Is God dark like me,

Asked the child with skin of golden hue,

Has he hair that's dark and curly,

Are his eyes black or blue?

I think God is red like me,

The Indian boy is heard to say --

He wears a crown of feathers,

And turns our nights to day

Each one of us knows that God is there

In ALL the colours above

But be sure of this, the one colour he is,

Is the beautiful colour of love

So when your soul goes to Heaven,

When your life comes to its end --

He will be waiting, and his hand to you

Will he extend.

There will be no colours in Heaven,

Everyone will be the same.

You will only be judged by your earthly deeds,

Not your colour or your name

So when your time comes,

And you see God in his Heaven above,

Then you will see the only colour that counts,

The beautiful colour of LOVE.

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Really Worth Spending A Minute

2009-10-18T21:55:00.000-07:00

Perception.somethin g to think about... really worth spending a minute

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007. The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approximately two thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.

4 minutes later:

The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

10 minutes:

A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children.. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

45 minutes:

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

1 hour:

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities. The questions raised: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made..... How many other things are we missing?

Crackerless Deepawali::2009

2009-10-17T22:38:00.000-07:00

This came from a friend as an appeal.I thought it was inspiring enough to share.

Though this is a tall ask but yet worth the thought, and I feel worth translating into action.Read on...

“CRACKERLESS DEEPAVALI - 2009”

Sub : “Happy Deepavali Without Crackers”

Having responsibility and commitment towards prevention of pollution and environment, I am just making an appeal to all my Team mates, Friends and Colleagues that - This year could we celebrate a clean and pollution-free Deepavali?

Hope every body is aware that, Deepavali is a festival of lights, exchanging of gifts and sweets, not for bursting crackers. As you all know, Bursting of crackers on Deepavali is not safe for environment. It causes noise and air pollution and may involve child labour while making it. Taking this simple yet effective step, with your family, we could help make our environment clean. Each year, the wide spread use of fire-crackers increases air pollution in our state, leading to many health problems like Asthma, Bronchitis and Heart attacks. Moreover, noise pollution beyond 125 db - the maximum level tolerable by the human ear-can even cause deafness. Are you aware of the impact of bursting fire crackers on the environment?

It affects environment in the following ways :

� Air Pollution affecting health especially to diseased persons, aged people, children & pregnant women.

� Crackers like "Atom bomb & Bullet bomb" and "Lakshmi Vedi" contain highly toxic heavy metals like cadmium, lead, copper, manganese and zinc.

� Other type of crakers like “Mathappu & Kambi Mathappui, Chakkaram, Chatttai and Pencil varieties” have arsenic, mercury, chromium and iron oxides which lead to severe pollution after they are burnt.

� According to the Central Pollution Control Board, India , 95 per cent of the crackers available in the market violate noise and air pollution norms

� Increased Noise levels can cause deafness/stress to many.

� It takes several weeks to bring back normal air quality.

� Fire hazards causing heavy damages to life and property.

By celebrating this Deepavali with new dress / eating delicious sweets and enjoying with gifts exchange instead of crackers, we keep our environment safe from pollution. Hope, I am sure you do not want others and yourself to suffer.

So, let's get cracking and convince our family members, friends and neighbours to join us in 'no' to crackers.

It really needs concerted efforts from all of us to spread this message effectively by committing ourselves must first set a good example for others.

Thanking You and Wish You a Very Happy Clean and Pollution Free Deepavali!!

HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR LIFE PARTNER

2009-10-16T22:10:00.000-07:00

Choosing your life partner is not a hard task provided that you become aware of little facts that very few people are aware of.

People often confuse themselves by physical attraction and the happiness they experience when certain chemicals are released in their bodies with love.

Yes after all love is based on physical attraction (in most cases) but if you forgot about everything else and depended on the chemicals alone you will surely end up with the wrong person.

Chemicals + logic

Of course you can’t pick up someone using logic without having some kind of attraction towards him else the relationship will be very cold, on the other hand, making choices based on passion alone will result in ruining the relationship when the chemicals that used to be released start to decrease.

The right way to pick a partner is choose someone using pure logic from those you had been attracted to already. So if you know 100 people and felt something towards 3 of them (at different times of course) you must then base your choices on logic.

For example if you are an 18 years old girl and became attracted towards a 45 years old man then your logic should tell you that this relationship is not long lived and that you should forget about it.

Finding your soul mate

When you start using logic to choose your partner you will need some basic guidelines to follow in order to make sure that your logic will lead you to correct choices.

For example you must look for someone who has complementary traits, common interest, similar belief system, tolerable bad habits and same intellectual level.

Don’t fall in the trap of wanting to live with someone forever because of physical attraction or even feelings, but let feelings come first then allow logic to control the feelings so that you don’t choose the wrong life partner.

Ways To Express Passionate Love

2009-10-15T22:17:00.000-07:00

Love has many different meanings in English, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (patriotism, pairbonding) . It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love. Probably due to its psychological relevance, love is one of the most common themes in art.

Just as there are many types of lovers, there are many kinds of love. Love is inherent in all human cultures. It is precisely these cultural differences that make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. See the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis.

Expressions of love may include the love for a "soul" or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etcetera. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain.

Interpersonal love

Interpersonal love refers to the love between human beings. It is a more potent sentiment than a simple liking for another. Unrequited love refers to those feelings of love which are not reciprocated. Interpersonal love is most closely associated with interpersonal relationships. Such love might exist between family members, friends, and couples. There are also a number of psychological disorders related to love, such as erotomania.

Some elements that are often present in interpersonal love:

* Affection: appreciation of another

* Attachment: satisfying basic emotional needs

* Altruism: selfless or unselfish concern for another

* Reciprocation: if love is mutual

* Commitment: a desire to maintain love

* Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feelings

* Friendship: the spirit between friends

* Kinship: family bonds

* Passion: whole-hearted desire

* Physical intimacy: sharing of intimate personal space

* Self-interest: desiring rewards

* Service: desire to help

Sexual energy can be the most important element in determining the shape of a relationship. While sexual attraction often establishes a new bond, sexual intention is considered undesirable or inappropriate in certain love bonds. In many religions and systems of ethics it is considered wrong to act on sexual desire for immediate family, for children, or outside of a committed relationship. However, there are many ways to express passionate love without sex. Affection, emotional intimacy and shared interests are common in friendships and kinships of all human beings.

Impersonal love

A person can be said to love a country, principle, or goal if they value it greatly and are deeply committed to it. Similarly, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers 'love' of their cause may be borne not of interpersonal love, but impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political convictions. People can also 'love' material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding their identity with that item. In these cases, if sexual passion is actually felt, it is typically considered abnormal or unhealthy, and called paraphilia.

Religious love

Whether religious love can be expressed in similar terms to interpersonal love is a matter for philosophical debate. Religious 'love' might be considered a euphemistic term, more closely describing feelings of deference or acquiescence. Most religions use the term love to express the devotion the follower has to their deity, who may be a living guru or religious teacher. This love can be expressed by prayer, service, good deeds, and personal sacrifice. Reciprocally, the followers may believe that the deity loves the followers and all of creation. Some traditions encourage the development of passionate love in the believer for the deity. Refer to Religious Views below.

Scientific models

Biological models of love tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. There are probably elements of truth in both views certainly love is influenced by hormones (such as oxytocin) and pheromones, and how people think and behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love.

Attraction and attachment

The conventional view in biology is that there are two major drives in love sexual attraction and attachment. Attachment between adults is presumed to work on the same principles that lead an infant to become attached to its mother.

Companionate vs. passionate

The traditional psychological view sees love as being a combination of companionate love and passionate love. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate). Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy not accompanied by physiological arousal.

Love styles

Susan Hendrick and Clyde Hendrick developed a Loves Attitude Scale based on John Alan Lee's theory called Love styles. Lee identified six basic theories that people use in their interpersonal relationships:

* Eros* a passionate physical love based on physical appearance

* Ludus* love is played as a game; love is playful

* Storge* an affectionate love that slowly develops, based on similarity

* Pragma* pragmatic love

* Mania* highly emotional love; unstable; the stereotype of romantic love

* Agape* selfless altruistic love; spiritual

Hendrick and Hendrick found men tend to be more ludic and manic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer.

Phases

Helen Fisher suggests three main phases of love: lust, attraction, and attachment. Generally love will start off in the lust phase, strong in passion but weak in the other elements. The primary motivator at this stage is the basic sexual instinct. Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role in screening potential mates. However, as time passes, the other elements may grow and passion may shrink this depends upon the individual. So what starts as infatuation or empty love may well develop into one of the fuller types of love. At the attraction stage the person concentrates their affection on a single mate and fidelity becomes important.

Likewise, when a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking.

Love vs. Insanity

Studies have shown that mental scans of those in love show a striking resemblance to those with a mental illness. Love creates activity in the same area of the brain that hunger, thirst, and drug cravings create activity in. New love, therefore, could possibly be more physical than emotional (though drawing a clear line between physical and emotional is difficult when discussing the brain).

Over time, this reaction to love mellows, & different areas of the brain are activated, primarily ones involving long-term commitments.

Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist, suggests that this reaction to love is so similar to that of drugs because without love, humanity would die out.

Ten Keys for Finding Happiness !

2009-10-14T21:48:00.000-07:00

Use these Ten Keys for Finding Happiness in Your Life

1. Live on purpose. Joyful aliveness connects you with your purpose. Learn the skills you need to create happiness. Discover the activities and pursuits that make your heart sing! These engaging activities provide clues to your purpose and will assist you in finding happiness.

If you want to maintain desperation and unhappiness, then believe that life has no purpose.

2. Find Happiness right now. No other time exists for experiencing happiness. Only the present moment contains the spark of life!

You may also create misery by constantly wanting to speed ahead to some other time. Most people live their lives wanting to exist elsewhere and elsewhen.

3. Accept total responsibility for your life! You create your reality and your emotions. Your power and focus exceed your wildest dreams. See this short video about finding happiness through creating reality.

You can choose to blame and whine, pretending that your life situation came from without, rather than from within. As within, so without. Accept total responsibility for all.

4. Act in boldness. Take on challenges and pursue lofty goals. Overcoming difficulties and obstacles provide some of the most exquisite joys in life.

To create misery, play it totally safe. Never do anything scary or risky. Follow your fears and let them guide your actions. For happiness and joy - feel the fear, and do it anyway!

5. Expect happiness. Hope consists of a perfect expectation of desirable things to come. Picture desirable things to come. You choose what to think about, and what to visualize in your mind's eye! Imagine yourself finding happiness.

Despair consists of a perfect expectation of undesirable things to come. To increase despair, simply imagine in detail terrible things that may happen to you. The better your imagination, the deeper the despair. You get what you truly expect, so expect happiness.

6. Increase your awareness. Feel your emotions consciously. Identify your core beliefs. Constantly learn and grow from the inside. Your unhealthy attitudes, habits, and behaviors will start to drop away like fall leaves.

To maintain apathy and misery, just remain unaware. Allow clarity to flee from you like a deer from a hunter. Remain in unconsciousness and cloudiness - afraid to explore your beliefs.

7. Build your connections. Our relationships give life meaning and happiness. All of us truly connect to one another in the inner world. Building connections in the physical world builds on this inner reality and helps us in finding happiness.

To create misery, simply separate yourself from others. Think that you exist as an independent entity, and other people merely drag you down. Insist on separateness and division. Deny the truth of connectedness and pursue unreality.

8. Learn and read daily. We grow in large measure due to the people we meet and the books we read. Did you read 52 books last year? Did you foster more friendships? We create happiness when we grow and increase our wisdom.

To prevent happiness, try not to meet any new people this year, and don't read any new books either. Simply stay just the same person with the exact same ideas. For optimal joy, go for optimal growth and learning!

9. Serve other people. Truly recognize other people as real people, with needs and wants just like your own. Think how you can bring a smile to someone, and then do it! Give increased life in every encounter. Service is a huge key for finding happiness in your life.

To create misery, ignore other people and totally concern yourself with your own needs. Don't think of other people as real.

10. Prioritize your actions. Know your goals and purposes, and put power and faith into every action. Do each action with focus and purpose, and know why you choose the activities you expend your energy on.

If you want to decrease joy, simply do as many things as you can each day. Never think of which tasks connect with your goals, simply busy yourself with work.

Enjoy the Ten Keys to Finding Happiness!

Why Planning is important

2009-10-13T21:32:00.000-07:00

Why Planning is important?

One Night 4 college students were playing till late night and could not Study for the test which was scheduled for the next day. In the morning they thought of a plan. They made themselves look as dirty with grease and dirt.

They then went up to the Dean and said that they had gone out to a wedding last night and on their return the tyre of their car burst and they had to push the car all the way back and that they were in no condition to appear for the test.

So the Dean said they could have the re-test after 3 days.

They thanked him, And said they would be ready by that time.

On the third day they appeared before the Dean. The Dean said that as this Was a Special Condition Test, all four were required to sit in separate Classrooms for the test. They all agreed as they had prepared well in the Last 3 days.

The Test consisted of 2 questions with a total of 100 Marks.

> > > See Below for the question Paper

> > >

Q.1. Your Name.......................... (2 MARKS)

Q.2. which tyre burst? (98 MARKS)

a) Front Left b) Front Right c) Back Left d) Back Right.....!!!

True story from IIT Bombay ...Batch 1992

When God created fathers...

2009-10-12T22:24:00.000-07:00

When the Lord was creating Fathers, he started with a tall frame. A female angel nearby said, "What kind of a Father is that? If you're going to make children so close to the ground, why have you put the Father up so high? He won't be able to shoot marbles without kneeling, tuck a child in bed without bending, or even kiss a child without stooping"

God smiled and said, "Yes, but if I make him child size, who would children have to look up to?"

And when God made a Father's hands, they were large. The angel shook her head and said, "Large hands can't manage diaper pins, small buttons, rubber bands on pony tails, or even remove splinters caused from baseball bats."

Again God smiled and said, "I know, but they're large enough to hold everything a small boy empties from his pockets, yet small enough to cup a child's face in them."

Then God molded long slim legs and broad shoulders, "Do you realize you just made a Father without a lap?" The angel chuckled.

God said, "A Mother needs a lap. A Father needs strong shoulders to pull a sled, to balance a boy on a bicycle, or to hold a sleepy head on the way home from the circus."

When God was in the middle of creating the biggest feet any one had ever seen, the angel could not contain herself any longer.

"That's not fair. Do you honestly think those feet are going to get out of bed early in the morning when the baby cries, or walk through a birthday party without crushing one or two of the guests?"

God again smiled and said, "They will work. You will see.

They will support a small child who wants to ride to Branbury Cross or scare mice away from a summer cabin, or display shoes that will be a challenge to fill." God worked throughout the night, giving the Father few words, but a firm authoritative voice; eyes that see everything, but remain calm and tolerant.

Finally, almost as an after thought, He added tears. Then he turned to the angel and said, "Now are you satisfied he can love as much as a Mother can?"

The angel said nothing more.

1 0 PRINCIPLES FOR PEACE OF MIND..

2009-10-11T22:08:00.000-07:00

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile . Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?